Kid’s Fun Is Good

Many months ago, my publisher asked me to comment on kids going to spa and having a manicure and pedicures with their moms.  While I go for manicures and pedicures whenever I have the time, I never bring Chloe along with me.  Well, occasionally I bring her to paint her nails with her girlfriends on special occasions but not often because too much, too soon is not good according to my mom.  Maybe, we are old fashion or maybe, it’s because we want them to stay a kid as long as we possibly could and not rush them to grow up.

I don’t let Chloe wear make up or lipsticks even on special occasions, she can get her nails painted but no coloring of her hair either.  Why?  because too much chemicals on a kid’s face, lips or on any part of her body, cannot be good for them, so my dermatologist girlfriend told me many years ago.With all those harsh chemicals that are in nail polishes, make up and hair coloring link to cancer and reproductive problems investigation, going el naturel will be the way for Chloe for a long time yet.

On top of all the above concerns, PB doesn’t want me to send the wrong message to the kid, in his opinion, too much too soon might send an inappropriate message to the kid.  Exposing what is meant for an adult is like rushing them to grow up and they won’t be enjoying their childhood as much as they should.  Plus, all kids are beautiful on their own and I want to teach mine that she is beautiful without needing anything else and that inner beauty is much more important.   So when Chloe came out from the computer room with a paper cutting like the above and doing funny actions, I cannot help but be glad that she is still child-like at 10 years old.

Gratitude Jar

A girlfriend from Australia posted an article about Gratitude Jar and after reading it, I realized that if I had a gratitude jar, mine would fill up very quickly.  Why?  because I’m always grateful and happy for anything and everything.  I never wake up in the morning and complain that I don’t have enough sleep or that I didn’t get to shower last night or that I’m not pretty enough , well you get the picture.

I’m grateful for every little thing in my life and try not to sweat the small stuff in life.  But having a gratitude jar is definitely a good idea to pass on to Chloe.  So this year, I’m starting a gratitude jar for Chloe and I – that way we can learn to appreciate all the things in life be it little or big.   Everyone should learn to cherish life and yourself.  If you haven’t try it !

The Lesson Of Giving – Chloe

Everyone who comes into our store ask Chloe how her Christmas was this year.  Well, this year as her parents we didn’t give Chloe anything for Christmas nor her birthday except for her birthday party.  But Santa gave her the 2 gifts she asked for and some stocking stuffer.  Why?

Well, this year we wanted to teach Chloe about giving and taking care of others first instead of  ourselves.  We’ve been so blessed throughout the year and since Chloe is the only child, we didn’t want her to grow up with the one child syndrome, whereby she thinks that she will get everything just because she wants it.  Chloe was really good about it and never argued with us and agreed that yes, we should take care of others first.

So this year for our family and friends, we bought more than our usual and gave more than our usual.  As for the money that we were supposed to spend on Chloe for Christmas and birthday, we chose to give it to 2 organization who needs it more than us.  I’m very proud of Chloe because not once did she whine about it nor did she say we didn’t get her anything.

I Love My New Neighbors !!!

They are awesome!!!!  Now I have great neighbors on my right and on my left!  woohoo!! life at home cannot be any better now.  One of my neighbors who saw PB shoveling on a blizzard day shouted across the lawn to ask him to be careful on the roads because she heard they were nasty on the radio.  Now tell me how can you not love neighbors like that right?  No, we don’t chit chat like we are old friends most of the time, but when the big stuff is concern, they do show that they care and it really touches my heart when they do that.

My new neighbor is quiet and that is awesome !  they let the kids play and make noise and they never complain at all.  They don’t have dogs or cats running around our lawn and pooping all over.  They are just wonderful !!!!  the way they are.  No trouble, no worries about anything because all my neighbors are great ppl now.  Thank you, Lord!  This is the first thing that is going into my gratitude bottle of 2014.

Presents From UK

Chloe and I are truly blessed, we get gifts from all over the world from friends and family.  This is from Pearly and it came all the way from UK with lots of food and chocolate for me and Chloe.  We are so grateful for awesome friends who think of us during every festive season and feel so blessed not because of the presents we get but because of the fact that we are in their heart and thoughts.  Thank you so much Pearly for being such an awesome friend and to all of you out there (you know who you are).

Christmas Decor Up Early

This year, we had our Christmas tree and decorations up as soon as the Remembrance day is over.  Why?  because we wanted to spend more time with Chloe and helping her prepare for her birthday and also her recital as well as her school concert.  Plus, we know that Christmas season are usually  busy at the store.   I felt so good when the tree was up because Chloe loves Christmas so much.  This year we didn’t disappoint her by setting up the tree late like last year.  Hopefully, when it comes to taking it down, we won’t take too long either.  hehe!

Bring Up Ms Chloe

I read a very interesting article the other day by a awesome friend from Australia and thought about how I can apply what I’ve read with Chloe.  But it also made me think of a recent incident with someone else’s kid, while I always tell Chloe not to sweat the small stuff unless she is hurt badly, this kid I know or thought I knew must have been taught differently at her home.

It made me quite sad to see both kids and parents behaving this way because I know that it cannot be good for both in the future but coming from a totally different culture, I held my tongue.  I pray to God that my relationship with Ms Chloe wouldn’t be this way in the future.

Festive Season 2013

Life cannot be better, good friends, good neighbors and family enjoying the Christmas parade and having hot chocolate at our store.  We have been so blessed this year, receiving gifts and food from family and friends from away.  Packages of goodies and gifts coming in for Chloe since November and of course, we are also busy preparing for her birthday.  She is going to be 10 years old!  time sure flies.  This year, school is going so good, she has such a great home room teachers and PAs, I cannot be more thankful.

The store had been really busy and we  have been busy buying a new store and hoping to expand.  We don’t want to rent anymore as we have been in business for 14 years to date.  So buying will be the only reason why we will be moving.  Alot of things had going on at home in Singapore too,  my parents dividing their properties amongst us – the siblings and while PB has no intention of getting anything from them, he is transferring his share of the properties to Chloe instead.  So the lawyers are going back and forth with the signing of documents and I guess my Chloe is going to be kinda comfortable when she grows up.

Why are my parents doing this now?  because they don’t want us to end up like when my grandparents passed away and my uncles and aunts were fighting over -who should get what.  While I know that my siblings are quite relax about the will, my parents fears that it might cause ill – feelings between us, so they rather do it while they are alive.  Like PB said, we don’t want anything, we are not well off but we are pretty comfortable here in Canada.  But my parents insisted that we should get part of the properties they have *sigh* – therefore, PB transferred our share of the Chloe.

In the meantime, we are just keeping busy at the store, which is forever busy it seems but we are happy and very glad that my parents are healthy and we missed them as much as they do us.

Parents & Teachers Meet In Canada

Parents and Teachers meet are quite different here in Canada as compared to the ones in Asia.  As my friends from home report their year end Parents and Teachers meet on Facebook, I remembered those days when my own parents and teachers meet with my ever long suffering mother who would take time off to go for my Parents and Teachers meet to get my report card.

My mom loved going for Parents and Teachers meet even though it would mean that she would lose a day off or sometimes change shift with her co-workers, you see my mom was a midwife in the local hospital back home and that would mean that she would literally have to owe someone a favor.  In Asia, it’s different when you need a favor to your co-workers, you kinda were indebted to them and need to repay at some point in your life. Yes, those crazy Asians!

During my Primary school days, I was quite the embarrassment to my dear mom, I was in a convent school where girls were supposed to be demurred.  I was for one, none of that – demure was never in my vocabulary.   I was too talkative, too opinionated, strong willed, the red indian and the ring leader of all mischief in the class of 40 girls.  Yes, I stuck out like a sore thumb in the convent school.  My dear mom was seen nodding occasionally and never once did she try to explain to the nun who was my home room teacher about my ill gotten manners. But I knew that when I got home, it would not be the end of it because I would get a good caning when my dad came home.

But things took a 360 degree turn when I went to Secondary school at 13.  At 13 years old, after my PSLE (Primary School Leaving Exams), my aggregate being over 85%, I was promoted to an independent school.  Being in an independent school meant that my teachers were mostly British or those who’ve graduated in teaching college from overseas.  Suddenly, being too talkative, too opinionated made me the best speaker in the school debate team, I became my teachers’ pet overnight, you see why my mom loved going to Parents and Teachers meet now.  Yes, my British and England graduate teachers found my outspokenness a refreshing change, they encouraged me to speak my mind and to follow my dreams and that anything was possible and to be brave.

Reading about some of my friend’s report on their own Parents and Teachers meet made me realized that not much have changed in some parts of  Asia but in Canada our Parents and Teachers meet are very diplomatic.  My own experiences with Chloe’s Parents and Teachers meet are 99% positive.  They always concentrate on her strength and try very hard to work with us on her weaknesses, Chloe’s teachers always sees the best in her  and wants to help her to reach her goal’s and strengthen her weaknesses.

I’m very grateful to all of Chloe’s teachers, they are very dedicated and they work so hard to help Chloe become what she is today.  Chloe loves school and all her teachers very much, it is such a joy to see her eager to go to school every morning.  Every single one of her teachers had an open communication line with us throughout the year and gladly worked with us to help Chloe.  I liked everyone of her teachers and unlike my mom, who was the lone ranger when it comes to Parents and Teachers meet, PB and I attend the meet as a Parental Unit.  Chloe and I are very lucky because PB plays the very nurturing father who is actively involved in Chloe’s school and her entire well being.  PB is the one who sends Chloe to school and picks her up from school and also completes her homework with her and watch and see that she finishes her piano practices and reads with her while I stay in the store and handle the paper work at the store.

Like my mom, I too wouldn’t missed Chloe’s Parents and Teachers meet although I must admit that my mom’s must be quite stressful.  But it also dawned on me how much my mom must have wanted me to have a good education to put me in a convent school (tis’ was not easy to get into one back then)  and then approved that I go to an independent school instead of a all girl’s Chinese school.  But here in Canada, Parents and Teachers meet don’t make parents feel like they are incompetent but partners, teachers don’t glorify themselves here, they give all the credit to the children when they do well and want to be your partner when your child is weak at some areas to find solutions for your child.  I’m grateful always for awesome teachers in Chloe’s life.

New Toy For PB & Chloe

Yup!  A PS4, just came by courier yesterday with the rest that was ordered to sell in the store.  PB kept 1 for himself and the rest was picked up and sold out first thing in the morning.  So it was a really busy morning for us at the store – actually midnite launch at our store.

We got ours at a wholesale price – the JOY and PERKS of owning your own store I guess, plus since we had 150 in order for our regular customers and all were paid for in advance, it was a really deal for everyone.  I never object to anything that PB wants to buy, like I said before, we don’t put what we buy on credit cards, we pay everything in cash even the stock at our store, everything is fully paid for. So no reason to say no to anything he wants because he never stops me from buying anything if I paid them in full.   So this weekend, guess what PB and Chloe will be doing?  hahahahha!