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More Friends Found On FB

Like I said before Facebook is a pretty awesome thing – you can find some people that you’ve known in the past and get in touch with them again. But do all of us wanna get in touch with the past? I saw some of my church friends on FB a few days ago – from during my teenage years and was tempted to get in contact with them again. But after reading their profile I decided not to – because they are still very strong in going to church and every word that comes out from there mouth would be – “Praise the Lord!”. Don’t get me wrong – I have nothing against people attending church and all and I do believe in God. But i’m not the same person I was some 30 yrs ago – and follow the word and His way that much.

There are just some things in the past – that are better left in the past – like I once said. My so-called “bestie” from church some 30 yrs ago – moved to Ohio – and when i asked her which part of Ohio – she replied “ohio” – and she never once wrote to me – when she was there. So I’m guessing although I treated her like a “bestie” she didn’t feel the same for me when i was a kid. So should I write her a message? will she think that i’m stalking her? hahahahha!!! nah ! i rather not stalk anyone – just knowing that they are well is good enough for me eh.

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A Fish Eater Who Won’t Eat Salmon

Chloe is a fish eater – but she refuses to eat salmon because it is not white in color. We all know that salmon is the best kind of fish to eat and I won’t fry the salmon – because I don’t like frying. I usually bake my fish – and wished she would eat some good fish instead of fish and chips. But nope – she refuses to eat my baked salmon – but when we order fish and chips – no problems at all – in fact – these days she eats more fish – than she did a year ago. What a strange little girl right?

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Reading Changes

We can see lots of changes in Chloe this year – this year – she is reading a lot more and recognizing a lot more words than we thought she did. When we go to the mall – she would try to read stuff that are on the sign – and is even able to read greeting cards. Very impressive indeed! the teachers from last year and this year – had done a great job with Chloe i’ll have to say. We are keeping our fingers and toes crossed – so far she is enjoying school very much and don’t want to miss school at all.

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Farewell, Mrs Lee

As I sit and watch the video on the eulogies read by Mrs Lee’s family and then the one by MM Lee and his farewell – when they were saying their last goodbye – MM Lee kissed Mrs Lee twice before moving away from the coffin sadly – it really touched me deeply. How many can have a relationship like our MM Lee and Mrs Lee? I envy and I feel really, really sad for MM Lee – must be a huge lost to him – losing his confidante, counsel and life-long partner.

Mrs Lee was an extraordinary woman – I don’t think a lot of woman today – can measure up to her. Like MM Lee said without Mrs Lee – he wouldn’t be the man he is today – and maybe, just maybe – Singapore wouldn’t be where it is today either. But what i respect most – was how Mrs Lee not only held her own career, helped MM Lee and still was the best mother and grandmother for her family and even took care of our present PM’s kids when their mother past away.

I reflect on my own relationship – and even though I am not in Singapore – and migrated to Canada for more than 10 years now – I still keep a very close eye and tab on what’s going on in Singapore. I love my Singapore and I don’t want to give up my citizenship if I can help it. There are lots of one can learn from Mrs Lee and one of them is “quiet”. Yes ! I have to learn to be “quiet”. Farewell, Mrs Lee – you will always be my inspiration and I will always remember you.

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More Exercises

Yes! rather than sitting and playing online mahjong to exercise the brain – i figured i would do 15 mins of step aerobics to see if my headache would go this morning. I only get to exercise after chloe sleeps at night – and sometimes – like last night she didn’t sleep till almost 10.35pm. So by the time, I am ready to exercise – it’s like 10.45pm – I’m tired and stressed out then. But exercising in the morning – doesn’t mean I am going to give up on the night exercise – it only means that I’m trying to get in as much as I can – since I love my food so much. I figured it’s better than just sitting for hours – after all, I already sit for the entire day.

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SomeDay Episode 80

So have you been watching Some Day from tvb – it’s on Episode 80 today. So finally – now I know why Simon is helping Zhang Qiu so much !! and all this time – you must think that he likes her eh? hahah!! i thought the same too – so donch feel bad about misunderstanding him. Very interesting – how Simon and Edmond – Zhang Qiu ex’s got to know Simon on the internet eh! what a coincidence – and like I said before it can only happen in a show/movie. Anyhow – if you are excited and want to know where to watch Episode 80 – you know what to do – leave a comment.

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Community Service

When I was much younger – my school used to make us do community service – to instill compassion in us ? I think anyway. So we would visit the blind – the orphanage – the old age home, I used to raise funds for these homes too and enjoyed it tremendously. Now that Chloe is in school, her school too brings her to visit the senior’s home – they don’t called it the old age home here. Chloe would come home and asked us why certain people are sick and why are they sick – how are they sick – when did they get sick. What is cancer?  yes! lots of questions – and we all know that you can’t just give a flippant answer – for they are way smarter than we were – when we were kids.

But how do you tell a 6.5 yrs old about illness and pain and why they are in the senior’s home and not at home with their family? Yes! lots of tricky questions here and to be answered carefully – that’s for sure. After reading some parental guide magazines – I’ve decided to read up more on these illnesses before talking with Chloe about it. I’m also to keep it simple and be honest about it and be prepared for more questions – and if I didn’t know about it – I’m to be honest about it too. So wish me luck! what about you ? you come across any difficult questions yet? we have had quite a few of late – kids are really way smarter than we were – when we were kids. hahah!

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Keeping My Child Safe

Like any parent – I’m a bit paranoid – if I cannot see Chloe – even at the store. She may be at a corner playing by herself when our store is full – and I would panic. Are you this way? I know I am a helicopter mom and also have anxiety problems – but even with security camera at our store – as soon as I don’t see her – I would panic.

While other parents let their child run around the park freely – I keep a very close eyes on Chloe and she cannot go behind trees or the huge garbage bins they have in the park. But like all kids – they like to do their “own” stuff with other kids. So i figured – getting a child locator may be a good investment for me. At least I don’t have to worry when I bring her home to Singapore – as the mall is a lot more crowded than they are here. I can’t hang a security camera on her – but I can certainly put a tiny locator on her dress or jeans all the time right? what do you think? good idea eh? I really think that getting it will give me a peace of mind – and like my oldest friend said – if money can solve a problem – then it’s no longer a problem.

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Good Patience & Bad Patience

I don’t like to scream, shout or raise my voice at Chloe – never been my style and I hope never will be. But like many parents – there comes a time – when we “do” raise our voices and scream at our child – after all we are only human. But I also read that there is the “good” kind of patience and the “bad” kind of patience – now that stumped me a little – isn’t being patience all good? apparently not!

So I quote from what I read – Good patience involves providing your child with time to complete tasks within their developmental abilities – unquote. So in other words – when you expect your child to do something – you have to give them enough time to make mistakes, fail and start all over again. Have the patience to let them do it right on their own – in other words – don’t be a helicopter mom like ME! hahahha!!

Ok the bad patience – getting your child to do the things you want them to do – may seems like good parenting and that you taught them well to the public – but like any good parents – a normal child will sometimes resist and they have their own thoughts over certain matters especially when they get older. It may seems at that time that ignoring the tantrums or resistance is good patient but it’s not. Yelling usually comes with resistance – but it doesn’t really work for me – because I feel absolutely bad after the yelling sessions. So what do you do? listen! listen to your child – work with her. Chloe likes that we help her to clean up – she doesn’t like doing it on her own – she feels bad when I get mad and clean up everything on my own. But I’ve learned to compromise – and help her to clean up – slowly but surely I feel she will know that she will have to clean up on her own. See the big picture – that was what i read. What about you? do you have good patience or bad patience?

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Health Care Overseas

When I used to work for the hote industry and traveled because of work – I had my health insurance covered by them – so I wasn’t worried at all – should anything happen to me while I was traveling. But migrating overseas – thinking that my health plan is covered by MSI – I never thought of any health insurance till recently. Unlike my best friend in the States – who has health insurance in nc, I am unable to get massage for my anxiety attacks which was recommended by my psychologist yesterday. So if you are migrating overseas – make sure you have a health plan – even though you may not have anxiety attacks like I do – you never know what would your health be in a few years. I don’t know if i can still get a health insurance plan now – but I’m going try.