Chloe had been spending time @ her grammie’s & grampie’s – and while she was out there – she had lots of visits from both her friends from her new school and her old school and of course friends from the store. She doesn’t know she missed all of them – but there is one kid we haven’t seen for a long time now. You see Chloe is really fond of this friend but unfortunately, we have had been making the calls and leaving messages for her friend’s parents for years now. Finally, this year – I decided – I’ve done my part as a friend and it’s up to them if they value our friendship – not like Chloe doesn’t have lots of ppl to play with and invited to play dates and stuff. I rather spend more time worrying about my cholesterol medications then the kid’s friend because she will outgrow the friendship – and she will have other friends as she grows up – so i’m not gonna be too, too worried about it – if this friend of hers doesn’t wanna call. If they are meant to be best buddies in the future – things will just fall into place – but in the meantime, I have no time to worry about it.
Words Can Wound
So Chloe came home from Grammie’s last nite – all tired and excited – she said she loves going to her Grammie’s and we had told her we were very proud of her – in which she replied – “so did you get your work done?” “is it because I’m not annoying you?” Well, that took us by surprised ! because we must have said something to Chloe to make her think that she was an annoyance or like eczema. So parents – we have to be very careful what we portray to our kids and what we say to our kids – what we said – or think at that point of time when we did say something to our kids – may not really sit well with them. Or if you think they don’t get hurt by words because they are too young to understand hurt – well you are wrong.
Kids mainly aim to please and Chloe is not any different – she would act silly or if we were laughing at some stuff she was doing – she would keeping doing it again and again to make us laugh. I strongly believed that kids grow up to be what their parents are – you are a great influence to your kids if you don’t know this by now. If you were being mean or petty to your in-laws or siblings – your kids are gonna do the same to theirs. So be watchful with your actions and words because words can wound the gentle heart.
Going To Grammie’s On March Break
It’s March break now and Chloe has just left to visit her grammie on her own and to spend a day at Grammie’s. This is the first time she is going to Grammie’s on her own and before she left – she was not feeling good – as per usual but when she arrived at Grammie’s she didn’t even remembered that she wasn’t feeling good.. hahahahah!!! So it gives PB a chance to go do some stuff like look for cheap car insurance, which we had been putting off for the longest time.
How time flies eh..!! chloe is already 6 yrs old.. and going to her grammie’s on her own when once upon a time – she wouldn’t go there on her own nor anywhere else. It’s wonderful that she is spending time there .. not because we wanna pawn her off to her grandparents but moreso – we want to foster independence in her plus we know for sure – that she is safe at her grammie’s and aunt helena’s. Now we know for sure that summer is gonna to be fun for Chloe .. woohoo..!!!
March Report Card
So we received Chloe March report card by mail today and she did mostly good except for 2 things – that the teachers/school feels that she only demonstrates with encouragement or prompts. One is accepting responsibility for her actions and the 2nd was resolving conflict appropriately. I think I am gonna take it with a pinch of salt because afterall, the kid is only 6 yrs old – how do you expect her to resolve conflict appropriately? I mean – I as an adult sometimes have a hard time choosing stocks for the store and about accepting responsibility – I’m afraid i don’t agree with the teachers – Chloe is so afraid of everything in that school that she refuses to drink water – so she doesn’t need to use the washroom because her relieve teacher told her that she would be punished if she took too long. So pray tell – how can a child want to accept any kind of responsibility?
Other than that.. she did pretty good in everything else .. from interacting positively with others to working independently, uses time effectively follows rules and routines, completes her work in class and homework and take pride in quality of her work. Chloe likes her school – she also likes her classmates – except the kid who was disturbing her – and I truly cannot understand why the teachers didn’t do enough to help Chloe feel safe. It’s very sad – because of this incident and her french teacher’s I am not going to be doing much for either school from now on.
Preparing For Easter
Chloe is preparing for Easter already – she is all over her Easter egg hunt and even asked to buy the bunny ears when we were at the dollar store. She was all dressed up today to show us how an Easter bunny looked like – and she did it all by herself. This kid of mine – aims to please and she is such a sweetheart and has a heart of gold. She takes my health seriously and tries not to upset me because she knows I have high blood pressure and taking medication for it. She doesn’t ask for much nor does she throws a tantrum when we don’t get her what she wants. She eats her candies in moderation and never ask for a ridiculous amount of candies and yes, she wants attention and wants someone to play with her but that’s normal eh. At 6 yrs old – she is definitely at her cutest!
Different Kids Different Pace
Chloe had been in her new school for 2 days now – so far so good – crossed our fingers. She claimed that there were no orange cards nor red cards like her previous school – I think this is making Chloe a lot happier because there is no stress there. Before, she is afraid of everything in her old school. We asked her – what about the naughty kids in class? what does the teacher do? Chloe claimed that there were no naughty kids thus far and we were not the least bit surprised because Chloe’s old school did have a reputation for naughty kids (kids comes from different background and brought up differently – we guessed).
This year – we also noticed how Chloe loves to write – previously – she just wouldn’t wanna recognized words nor attempt to do anything with them. This year – she writes a lot better – even better than I .. hahhaha!! so yes – different kids have different pace and as parents we need to know that and not get pushed into something the school wants of our kids when they are not ready.
Choosing The Right School For Your Kid
As parents we all want to give our kids the best – back home – we search for a school as soon as our kid turns 2. During my time, my mom had to sleep overnight at the school grounds just to make sure we get a place in a good school. I used to go to a Convent school back home and yes – that school had high standards – while the rest of Singapore had to score 50% to pass – this convent school requires that we score 60% to pass. Choosing the right school is not as easy as choosing mens ties, as parents – don’t make the same mistake as we did.
We wanted to have faith in the teachers and principal at Chloe’s school and even though the school has a reputation, we were very gung-ho about putting Chloe in the school. Hell! we even donated an LCD projector to the school – that was how much faith we had. But as you all know – there was a little boy who keeps bugging Chloe and even though he moved away in December – he returned last week and of course – the teachers didn’t see it such a big deal to keep Chloe and him apart. The kid was still lining up behind Chloe and Chloe was really frightened.
And like any good parents – we didn’t see a need to traumatize our kid any longer – and since the school/teachers didn’t see it as such a big deal – we saw to it to see the teachers/principal’s boss instead. A meeting with the school board was set up immediately and after a brief meeting the Superintendent offered a transfer right away. We can only keep our fingers crossed this time and hope that this new school is the right choice. It’s not easy being parents but we all do try and do the right thing. So moral of the story – if the school has a history – don’t be as gung – ho as us.
Growing Up With Chloe
I sometimes read some of the other bloggers’ going on and on about their kids and think about my own. I count my lucky star – that Chloe is unlike some I’ve read and come across personally. Sure, she can be a brat at times – but she is afterall a kid eh? so you can’t expect her to behave any other way – even adults throw tantrums and misbehaved.
But growing up with Chloe has been a joy – seriously ! she is so sensible in so many ways – just like yesterday – she helped us fold the laundry – sure it wasn’t done the best but hey! she is only 6 yrs old! She even tried to fold the tuxedos and was pretty gung-ho about doing it right. Some parents tend to compare their kids with others – and I sometimes slipped and do the same – but we have to stop ! like right now! and enjoy our kid as they are. Nevermind, if your best friend’s kid can read the entire book or spell like 100 words at 3 yrs old – it doesn’t matter ! what matters is your kid is happy and carefree – and most importantly healthy! So moms !! enjoy your kids ! and embrace them ! embrace every inch of them and how their quirkiness.
Busy February
So we had a really busy month in February and with Godma Lynn visiting from Toronto – we were really trying to meet up and hope for Chloe to bond with her Godma – even though her trips are always short. So instead of helping a friend with her disability insurance, we had excused ourselves and waited for Godma Lynn to visit at the store. Alas, she didn`t come till it was late at nite – but nevermind – at least Chloe got to spend time with her albeit short still.
So what had been happening? We had kept ourselves really busy at the store and trying to cope with all the bills for winter like usual. This year – we are kinda on top of things and have all current bills paid on time.. unlike previous years when we had employees to take care of first. This year – without any help – we had to work a lot harder but definitely fruitful because we see all bills and every outstanding taken care of – so I can’t complain much about this February.
Ronald Macdonald’s Time
So we continued on our quest to try and feed chloe with different thing – so this Sunday – we brought her to McDonald’s for breakfast – but as usual, she only ate half a pancake and a bite of the hash brown. She was more interested in playing with Ronald – more than eating *slap forehead* .. oh well.. we’ll continue to try our best – that’s all we can do – she will eat them when she is good and ready – i tell myself – in the meantime, don’t sweat the small stuff.