Myth : Asian woman married to Westerners lives a life of wealth and don’t have to do anything – but look pretty and go shopping – while the spouse makes lots of money thus allowing her to travel home to Asia and flaunt her wealth and superiority to her friends and relative.
Fact : Some of us haven’t been home for 10 years or more – and even though we are not poor – rich and wealthy is far from describing us. Most Asian woman do work even when they are in the West and they have to cook a meal for themselves and their partner as well.
While I can’t say that I’ve had it bad here in Canada – I have to say that I don’t get to go home as often as I liked. Not because we can’t afford it – but we can’t afford the time as my spouse owns his own business. Thus, I’m constantly homesick and missed my food from home a lot. And no – we don’t have an Asian grocery store nearby – as I lived in a small town. Not going home for a visit and not getting the food I need is my biggest beef. Another thing is the doctors – there isn’t much around and seeing a doctor is like making an appointment to see God. Unlike home – there are plenty to choose from – from gynecologist to dental or any kind of specialist. Over here – even if you have the money – you still have to wait for an appointment.
Most Asian thinks that getting hook to a Westerner means marrying into money – but let me tell you 9 outta 10 Westerners that I have met here – are either poor or lazy – some worst and are on drugs – the other 1 man that works and has money is most likely to be married or already hooked with another girl. Most Asian thinks that marry a Westerner means flowers and romantic candle light dinners and dancing/serenading. Truth – nope they are not made the same – there is no sharing a bottle of wine with PB – because he doesn’t drink – and no candle light dinners – because he is not adventurous with food. And everywhere we go eat – he eats the same thing over and over again.
More on the Real Lives Of Asian Married To Westerners In The Next Post – stay tuned.