Category: Brat Stuff

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Teaching My Kids About Wants & Needs

We always try not to buy expensive and unreasonable gifts for Chloe and we also trained her not to see something and wants it immediately from young.  The toys you see here – are not toys that Chloe had asked for – nor are they new – we bought them from a local yardsale – for less than $65 altogether.  And we also want to state that we didn’t buy everything for her at once – they all came in pieces and at the time when they are at the right prices.

Chloe had been taught that money is hard to earn and even though she doesn’t know the value of money – she never really ask for a lot of toys.  We usually buy her toys from the dollar store and even then – we make it look like it’s a lot to ask.  She n ever ask more than 2 toys from the dollar store.

Because she is so good – we buy stuff for her without her asking for it when we see them on sale at the local yard sale – she would be surprised and very grateful with whatever we buy for her.  So yes! we taught our kid – her wants and needs and to differentiate it

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Back To After School Program

We’ve decided to let Chloe go back to the after school program today because the weather was so nice – and also because of what happened last Sunday.  We went out to visit Grampie because her Godma came from Toronto but they were so tired – no one wanted to play with her.  Poor Chloe had so much energy but there was just no one who wanted to go out and play – PB did go out for a bit after a lot of sulking from Chloe but I felt so bad for her so I decided that the after school program would do her some good.  She came home all sun burnt but happy with all the things she did at the after school program and this time – they seems to take better care of her – so lets hope it will continue.  Poor Chloe without Grammie things are going to be a lot different – and all grammie’s sisters who promised to baked with Chloe and look out for her – well, we haven’t seen them since the funeral.  *sigh* – this summer is going to be a hard summer for poor Chloe.

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Taking Advantage Of A Discount

Yes, even though we didn’t need the labels for this year since everything that needed labeling was done in September last year – I took advantage of a discount from Mabel Labels – at 20% off the labels.  Some parents might think that paying so much for labels is not worth it – when you can use those permanent markers and mark everything that belongs to your kid.  Sure you can – but you only are cute for a certain period of their lives and so why not take advantage of that and give them the cutest things to go with their cuteness right?  Sure it’s a lot of money – but it is worth it as the labels do last a long time – and they don’t peel off.   I did get some from Etsy thinking that they are cheaper and i wanted to support the locally made ones – but they peeled off and was so disappointing – so when it comes to labels my faith is on Mabel labels.

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My Child Is Still Grieving

Chloe is still grieving for her grammie – we can’t talk about her grammie because it makes her sad – and at night she wants a hug from her grammie.  When she visits her grampie – she wants a hug from grammie before leaving but of course, she can’t get any hugs from her grammie.  She reminds us that her grammie didn’t give her a good bye hug before she died and she had been writing letters to her grammie and calling out for her when she plays.

She knows that grammie is in heaven now but she cannot understand how it can be better in heaven when she cannot see her grammie nor her grammie sees her.  She knows her grammie loves her but she misses her deeply.  I grieve with my child and I wished I know how to say the right thing – but I could only think of all the things she cannot do with grammie anymore.  Very sad indeed.

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Kids Can Do Housework Too

Yes, kids can do housework too and help around the store.  Today, Chloe wanted to help clean the toilet and we let her – her daddy stayed and watch her cleaned it and even though she didn’t do a good job – it’s alright – because it’s a start.  Usually on Sundays, we make her clean up her books and dust around the house while we clean up the house like vacuuming and stuff.  And at the store, we make her dust or do some spraying of fabreeze or help the customers with opening the locked cabinets.

One thing for sure is when you ask your kids to help out with the housework, never tell them that it is not cleaned enough and you want to do it all over again.  This would then make your kid not want to help you in the future.  My mom did that to us, she was never happy with what we did and even called us a liar and accused us for not doing our chores, now that is a huge no no !

For Chloe, doing housework and helping out around the home and store is a joy, she feels that she is responsible – she feels like she is a big girl for helping out, she feels useful – that is how you want your kids to feel.

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Swimming With Kids

We were invited to a small get-together with some extended family last week and since they have an indoor heated pool – the children wanted to swim of course.  But while we were chatting – the kids were playing in the pool and around it – of course the younger ones cannot go into the pool and thank God for pool safety net , we can go and get our food or drinks without worrying that the younger ones may fall in the pool while there wasn’t any adults in sight.   If I have an outdoor pool in the future for Chloe, I too will invest in the pool safety net because we love BBQing so much in the summer and when you have good friends around, we tend to chat and laugh, we sometimes might just turn around and not pay attention to the younger kids.  So to avoid any accidents at my home – God forbid – I’m going to insist on the pool safety net. We had such a good time at the extended families – no accidents – thanks to the pool safety net – the kids were tired out but they looked forward to going again.

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Birthday Party

Normally, I would never asked PB to drop his work and attend a birthday or gathering of his extended family.  But because of Chloe and because we wanted to show her that she don’t have to worry we might die anytime soon – we brought her to Aunt Guytha’s 100 birthday at her home in Port Maitland.

Yes, Aunt Guytha is 100 years old yesterday – a lot of people attended the party – and Chloe was quite pleased to see that Aunt Guytha was real and that she lived to 100 years old.  As for Aunt Guytha – she is PB’s grandmother’s sister –  looking really good for her age.  Her house was huge and really nice.   I’m happy we went – even though it was raining and all – at least she seems happier after going to the birthday party.

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Hanging Onto Grammie

Yes, chloe is desperately hanging on to Grammie and hoping that she will get well – but at this point of time we knew it wasn’t going to happen.  But Chloe drew and drew and drew and drew fairies and put on good wishes for her grammie.  My heart breaks for my daughter and wished for a miracle.  I even asked God to heal Grammie – and I’ll give up all my Chinese food.  But Grammie is getting worst by the day – she isn’t even talking to us no more.  We are currently preparing Chloe for her Grammie’s passing, she doesn’t like it and who does and she still asking for pixie dust to be sprinkled on Grammie – so that Grammie can get well soon.

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Chloe Dealing With Grammie Who Is Sick

When Grammie got sick – I had asked Chloe how she feels about Grammie being sick and in the hospital – being the new age mom – I learned that we have to talk to our kids about things they don’t comprehend and don’t know how to go about asking about it.  We bring Chloe to visit her grammie everyday since she was admitted to the hospital and she make it her plan to read to her grammie in the hospital – I thought that was a very good idea – and she enjoys showing off her reading skill.

So how is Chloe coping with her grammie’s illness?  first of all she doesn’t know that Grammie is very sick – we told her that Grammie is in the hospital to do more tests and to find out what is wrong.  Chloe said she is a little sad and hopes that Grammie discharge soon because she doesn’t like visiting Grammie in the hospital.  She asked me one night – if Grammie was going to be alright – and I had told her that yes, Grammie is going to get treated and she will be as good as new or somewhat new.

Chloe is very closed to her Grammie – more than her grampie – so if anything happens to her Grammie, I think she will be scared forever.  So I’m really praying hard that Grammie will be treatable and that she will lived a long, long time. As for now, we are telling Chloe to have hope and to pray.

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Not Good News On Grammie

So we haven’t really grasped what is going on with Chloe’s grammie health yet.  We spoke to her doctor after she had her scan and it’s not good news.  Her liver is enlarged and they suspect that she has cancer and not only in one spot.  I’ve asked her doctor if we had anything to worry about – and if it was treatable but he wasn’t sure it was just one spot – like in its late stages – from what I understand.  So we are currently all in shocked and don’t know what to think or do.

But after a night of restless sleep, I’ve decided that I’ve to be strong for PB and his family – and have to think positive and make sure I send positive thinking to them to.  More tests is asked for now and we are just waiting for a biopsy and another more thorough CT scan.  Hopefully, after that we will get to know more.  In the meantime, we are just praying hard that Chloe’s grammie will fight this, coz’ I don’t know how it would affect Chloe if anything is to happen.  Chloe’s grammie is only 64 and I know we weren’t expecting this at all.