Godma Lynn came for a short visit .. about a week. She left this morning.. and headed out .. to embark in her new job.. actually a lateral transfer..?? Anyhow.. Chloe saw her Godma Lynn twice.. and twice was short visits. Chloe asked me .. how come Godma.. didn’t play with me.. in the park.. they just sat on the bench… *roll eyes*. I think the kid is kinda disappointed. We tried to explain to her.. that Godma has a lot of ppl to visit too.. not only her. But Chloe replied.. “BUT SHE IS MY GODMA!!!!” *slap forehead*
Prom
Keegan preparing for her Grade 12 – final prom. This prom is her graduating prom.. therefore .. it is very important to any gal her age. She just had her hair done here.. and came over to show us. If you wanna see the $500 dress she paid for .. for her prom.. check back later.
I donch know how much she paid for her hair.. but it looked really nice. But of course, we already know that Kate is quite a pretty gal.. and has no problem… making herself pretty. Can’t wait till Chloe and her graduating prom.. but she ain’t getting a $500 dress.. muahahhahaha!!!
Shows
Long time friends of this blog had been asking me why I don’t link shows no more. You can email me.. for the full version of the story. But remember.. you have to be real friends.. and not some random ppl that happen to pass thru’. No time to answer everyone lah.. you know right..?
No, Sorry .. No Horns !
A few days ago, I wrote .. and wonder if my Chloe has horns.. remember..?? This morning .. a check with the regular teacher.. and the child involved.. we found out that Chloe was telling the truth. *Phew* .. darn relief lah..!!! As mothers .. we donch wanna think that our angels can get evil.. but if for some reason .. they are.. then we have to nip the problem at its bud . .no..?? I love my daughter .. but if she was learning .. or behaving wrongly, it is best to make it right now. I don’t want to be like some parents whose kids sells stuff at our store.. and blame us for buying them, instead of telling their kids not to sell the stuff. How would we know .. if they are allowed to..??? we always try calling .. if the kid is below 16 .. but if kids can have sex legally at 14 here.. what makes these parents think that selling their games or consoles are illegal..?? And like the parents of those who are into drugs .. and instead of sending them to a drug rehab, they blame the traffickers. *slap forehead*
Anyhow, I’m pleased to inform friends and family .. that my kid is not a bully nor does she have horns. Moral of the story – don’t panic, find out the real story and then act accordingly. If your kid is really evil, then you have to get a saw and saw off the horns.
Mother’s Day
I am a mother for 5.5 yrs now. And I know being a mother is truly not easy but one that gives out unconditional love. Whatever I do, I do it for my kid first and I’m sure that alot of mommies out there are this way too. This generation of kids are the most blessed if I may say so.
I come from a generation where my mom thinks that boys are more important and that supporting me thru’ college was unnecessary. I don’t blame my mom for thinking and behaving this way .. because that was how she was brought up too. I grew up in a generation where my mom would search our entire house .. to find our diaries just to see what we were up too. I grew up in a generation where my mom said many harsh and vulgar words to me .. when i was growing up. I grew up with a mom who only wants to hear the good stuff and never the bad. And if anything went bad.. it had to be the “girls” fault. Many of you out there.. may have experience this kind of treatment .. because of our different culture . .and generation .. and our education background.
I grew up with a mom who thinks that the best thing a daughter can do is to marry someone rich, very young – so that she doesn’t need to take care of us anymore – not her problem anymore (her exact words). Do i hate my mom..?? nah.. ! But it sure taught me something.. that if i wanna have a kid.. than i must never treat her the way i was treated – as easy as buying a micro sd card. Pretty straight forward eh. I don’t hate my mom .. but please stop being stupid and stop asking me if my mom knows about my life in Canada nor had she made an attempt to contact me here or the other way around. Especially those who knows me .. and knows that I never talk about my family except this one in Canada (pb and chloe).
And to all good mommies out there.. Happy Mother’s Day.
So She Has Horns Now?
Last week I wrote about Chloe getting punched by her classmate and refuses to go back to school the next day. But yesterday, when PB went to pick chloe up at school, her relief teacher had notified PB that Chloe had taken a stool and hit her classmate back with it – because she didn’t want the other girl to be first. Shocked of course, when we heard about it.. but for the life of me.. i cannot see my brat being so violent nor evil.
As soon as she came back to the store, she hid under her table.. and started crying.. big time… when PB asked her to tell me what was going on. Of course, she wouldn’t say at first.. but after much cajoling and probing.. she said she didn’t pick up the stool and hit her school friend. What happened according to Chloe was .. she wanted to go down the slide first… and she had a stool with her on the bridge of the slide.. to sit like a princess (why i have no idea) .. and then the other girl went down first.. and she tripped on her stool.. while trying to go down the slide.. and the stool fell and hit the other kid. I know that Chloe can be quite bossy at times.. but never had i seen her raise a hand on anyone.. especially another kid. I had asked Kate if Chloe had ever hit her .. and Kate said no.. but Chloe would try and scratch her hands.. if she was mad.
We continued reminding Chloe about what bullies are .. and how no one wants to be friends with bullies and how when the other kid punched her last week and how upset we were. We re-enforced our believes and tried to see if there was a different story. And this morning .. i asked her again, if she ever scratched Kate – in which she replied yes. I asked her if she did pick up the stool to hit her friend in school, she said ” you already asked me 100 times yesterday, and I said “no” .. it was an accident!”
But her relief teacher did distinctly tell PB that chloe picked up the stool to hit her friend. So did my daughter grew horns overnite.. that I don’t know of. As parents, we of course, want to think that our kids are angels. It is very dangerous… if as a parent you do not want to hear both side of the story.. and that your kid does not know the consequences of her actions. So come Monday, we explained to Chloe that we will ask her teacher to speak to her classmate without us with Chloe .. about what happened. Plus we are gonna leave our phone # for the other parent to contact us.. if the teacher’s finding is that Chloe did actually pick up the stool to hit the other girl. Because if Chloe did that, we have to let the other parent know that we are on top of things – and this is never gonna happen again. On the other hand, if it was a misunderstanding.. i want to set the record right too.
New Rules
I never liked clutter, so from young, Chloe was taught how to clean up and put things back where they belong. Usually, during bedtime, she still wants to play with her toys.. but just before she lay down.. and cover herself in blankie, this is what she does. Line up all her toys properly .. before going to bed. But there is a new rule at home this week, and that is .. Chloe can mess up her room.. as long as she cleans it up herself.. at nite. I believe in teaching her young.. and hopefully, we give her some good grounding.. to help her be a good person for the future.
Best Friends
Chloe’s best friend is Dominic. In fact, they were born at about the same time. Dominic’s mother and I got pregnant at about the same time. I still remember the day i announced my good news.. to Claudette..but Claudette was in to tell me about her good news… but stopped herself. It is truly hard to find good ppl here in this town and I hope to make some good friends for Chloe, so that when she grows up, she will have a pool of good ppl to look up to.. and share stuff with. I also want to teach Chloe to be strong and nonchalant because sometimes, ppl say things without knowing that they can hurt our feelings. For ppl like that.. I want to teach Chloe not to waste time on them… and move forward.
Moment Of Truth
Many of my girlfriends & family often asked why i chose a man from a “ulu” town.. to settle down with, since i had many choices for I worked with a lot of ppl and meets tons too. Muahahah!! and every now and then.. with the ladies/moms here .. i get the same question. Well, moment of truth .. g/fs is .. yes.. i get to meet a lot of ppl, but most are either too full of themselves (i’m so full of myself, so how can i tolerate another like me right..?) or some are already married.. and only looking for a fling .. which i was not into ( after get AIDs how..??) .. and those “suitable ones” .. well .. lets just say .. they want someone submissive..?? and others.. they have their own expectations.. of the woman they want to settle down with.
As you all know.. i met PB online. He was funny and witty .. and had a dry sense of humor, obviously SMART .. but having said all these.. had i known what it was gonna be like here.. in small town, i would definitely had encouraged him to live in Asia. But now that we’ve Chloe, it makes it a lot harder to move.. because of all the benefit the Canadian government gives to these kids – the future generation. Surely there are lots of things that I don’t like here but I never have to work for someone else for the last 9 yrs. On top of everything else, PB shares half of everything i do for Chloe and the house.. i’m a 50/50 gal and in our household, there is no one thing that either of us wouldn’t do. And of course, most importantly, the heavy duty stuff is done and taken care of by PB. All in all, it’s great except for missing food and home, now if they had just 1 hawker center in Yarmouth, I’ll be good for life here. So for those thinking of migrating.. make sure you migrate where there are authentic food around eh. Love is important .. but food is equally as important.
Nightmares
Poor Chloe .. woke up at 1.40am with the same kinda nightmares again..! this time.. it wasn’t so long the crying.. but PB carried her and walked her around.. the whole time. She then want to stay in the tv room tonite..so PB gotta sleep on the couch with her. Bummer..!