I thought i had it hard..!! Leaving home..and coming all the way to Canada.. and staying in this “ulu” town.. all in the name of love..for Papa BoK, till i read Gene’s Life as a Married Woman.
Actually, I have it real easy.. Papa BoK always.. always tries his utmost best… to please me.. and to accommodate me. But i very the bad one …. something so harmless and silly.. i can also scream at him.. like leaving the thawed chicken out for too long..! Can die or not..??
My in laws treat me like Queen like dat..! And so does all the relatives from Papa BoK’s family. I so loud.. and so blunt.. but they just accept me.. the way i am. If i go eat at my in-law’s house.. they try and cook the things i really like… and my MIL would pass me the plate.. and forks..and if i was feeding Chloe.. she would even ask .. if i wanted her to get the food for me. My MIL never, never scream at me.. or fight with me.. or argue with me.. or be sarcastic to me, not ONCE!
I no need to cook for Papa BoK .. only for myself.. and Chloe.. 🙂 and all shopping or groceries.. Papa BoK would help me to get.. or we go together. When I am in the store.. i send one of our workers to go get me coffee or bagel.. or anything i need. Or Papa Bok would go get it for me.
For my immigration papers.. Papa BoK and everyone of the relative.. wrote and sign a piece of document.. helping me to verify our relationship being geniune. And my MIL would constantly ask about my immigration status.
If there was a new doctor in town.. taking in patient .. my MIL would make sure.. she reminds me over and over again about it.. so that we can perhaps get a physician for Chloe in town instead of 45mins away.
Papa BoK would cook breakfast for me.. or let me sleep in till 1pm.. if i was up all nite with the brat. And he does the laundry.. and put the laundry in the dryer.. and do the bottles.. for me.. or fold the laundry for me.. or vacuum the floor for me.. if i needed… sometimes no need to ask either.
When i had Chloe.. my MIL came to stay with me.. to help me with Chloe. She took care of Chloe for me.. but she never, never told me.. what i had to do.. and what i cannot do with Chloe. She would just tell me.. that “that was what she did with Papa Bok and my BIL” but it was entirely up to me.. what i wanted to do with Chloe. When Chloe wouldn’t sleep, she would be sleeping in the living room with Chloe.. so that Papa BoK and I can go to bed.. and sleep good.
My FIL would plant baby bok choi for me.. just because i love the veggies.. and he re-pots my plants for me.. and would come to town.. just to help me.. get rid of cardboards.
I haven’t worked for the last 5.5yrs.. since i came to Canada.. coming to the store.. is actually time for me to have fun and interact with the customers. Sure we have had some problems with our workers.. but who doesn’t…?? In terms of taking bullshit from ppl.. i don’t have to if i didn’t want to. Papa BoK owns the store..!!
Papa BoK is strong.. and never care about what ppl might think or say about me. If i am loud and blunt.. he just accepts me .. the way i am. Some ppl that used to work for us.. calls me a BITCH.. but Papa BoK just dismissed it.. and tells me.. i’m not the BITCH.. they are just ASSHOLES! and MORONS!
And if Papa BoK gets sassy or moody with me.. for any reason.. all i need to do .. is tell him.. ” Are you being an Asshole..??” and then he would stop. Simple.
So if I thought i had it hard.. i thought WRONG..! I think Papa BoK have it harder, from being single.. no worries and can do and buy anything he wants.. no responsibilities.. to having take care of a baby/toddler.. and then cannot go online so much.. because gotta look after baby. Sleep also kenna sleep deprived.. coz’ gotta share sleep with Mama BoK. And then Mama BoK constantly nagging.. about how much cleaning gotta be done.. and if the workers donch behave .. i also blame Papa BoK .. for not being pro-active.. by making sure that they workers know what is expected of them.. when they are working. YaY..! like dat also can ka..??? I mean me..! being so ridiculous.. or what..?? how can Papa BoK control what the workers are gonna be like.. when they wanna be A**Holes..???
So yes.. i better start appreciating my other half.. and my in-laws.. and everyone around me.. and not become complain Queen so much..!!
As for Gene, if you are reading this.. hang in there .. gal..! you are doing a great job.. and never let anyone tell you .. or think that you are not a good mummy. Chinese MILs are actually mostly the same.. to be honest..! that’s why i never wanna married a chinese.. for fear of having to deal with not only the outlaws but also all the “san gu liu po”…. and the sisters-outlaws, and the aunties outlaws .. and whatever else nonsence.