Month: January 2010

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The Kid and The Man

Every mother would agree with me – that whenever they look at their kid – it is nothing short of a miracle. Till today – 6 years after giving birth to Chloe – it never fails to amaze me how God makes it possible for the woman to carry the baby for 9 months in our belly – growing from a size of a pea .. till she is ready to come out. And that may be the reason why mothers are never harsh on their kids – they can get away with just about anything.. but not the spouse.

Are you like me…?? always picking on the spouse but never the kid..?? I’m guilty .. that’s for sure – the spouse cannot raise his voice at the kid.. nor can he ignore the kid.. but it’s alright the other way round.. well not the raising the voice part.. because Chloe is taught better. But when it comes to buying things – it’s the same way.. anything for the kid.. but nothing for the man – if the kid needed a lcd monitor – zoom i would be out there getting her a new one.. if hers was broken.. but if the man’s monitor was broken, i would tell him to make do with a used one from the store.

Everything for the kid – needs to be new or fresh to eat – the spouse and myself.. we can eat leftovers .. no biggie…?? what about you ..?? are you this way..?? or is it just me..?? I know of some mothers here who would be all dressed up .. and make up .. and their kids gets their clothes from Salvation Army – a bagful for $10. But i couldn’t do that.. if anyone would to wear .. anything from Salvation Army… it will be me.. not the kid.

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Family Bonding

I never had much of a family if you didn’t know by now. My dad was never much at home – maybe once a year – not even during chinese new year – and my mom well – she was very much into the boys/brothers. So when I met PB online – he used to comfort me and said .. his parents will be my parents – that was very sweet of him eh.

Chloe is a very loving girl – in fact the older she gets – the closer she is with her grandparents – which had been my plan all along. Family bonding is very important to me for Chloe – more important than PB getting use to the project management software he just bought and playing constantly with. I have to constantly remind him and myself that Chloe isn’t gonna be this young forever because I remember how much i used to envy my neighbour’s family or my school mates ones.

If I had to drop everything to be with Chloe – I would – no doubt about it – if you don’t think it will affect them you better think about it .. because till today – i still think about how little time my parents had for me. It’s a constant regret for me.. that I never got to know my parents well enough nor give them enough hugs because they don’t practice nor encourage it. Therefore, with Chloe – she is a totally different story. What about you and your kids..?? don’t let them grow up thinking that their parents didn’t care too much about them eh.

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Learning Words

Chloe came home with a list of words she had to learn weekly – we had known about it for a few weeks now. And a look at her list – we realized that we didn’t get Week’s 1 list – and since some of Chloe’s classmates parents shop at our store – I of course, quickly called and asked them for the List 1’s words. But one of them couldn’t remember where her list was and another didn’t call back. And another one who happened to be at our store in the evening – didn’t even know that her kid had words to learn *slap forehead*. Anyhow, that evening – I lay away my auto insurance quotes and started to teach Chloe her words – 2 at a time – I figured for the weekend.. and 1 each for the weekdays.

So lets get back to these other parents – well, as you can see – how challenging it is for Chloe’s teacher with this kinda attitude *shake head*. As for us – I hope we can be diligent parents and help Chloe move ahead with every standard she is promoted to.

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School System

Chloe hasn’t gone to school for 3 days now – well the first day – was in -service (meaning – the teachers had meeting or some self help class) – then it was a snow day but the snow wasn’t so bad – but that’s alright because she was quite stuffed up in the morning she woke up. Today – same thing we woke up at 7am – and the radio announced no school again. Boy!! these ppl are real wuss – the snow wasn’t bad at all – i mean for chloe she wasn’t feeling the greatest – so we would have made her stay home – but what about those other kids – whose parents had to work..??? I tell you .. the school or the school board needs some testosterone booster – no wonder the “ang moh” kids are so lazy…!!!

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Pterodactyl

We were visiting Chloe’s grammie and grampie a few days ago – and she of course needed all the attention (whats new?) and started making noises of a crow. Of course, we all laughed at her and her grammie said – “So you are a crow now?” In which, Chloe replied indignantly, that she was a PTERODACTYL and not a CROW!

Yes.. ! you heard right a PTERODACTYL ! even I donch know what a Pterodactyl is .. hahhaha!! i know it is a kind of dinosaur .. but really a PTERODACTYL …?? i mean ask me about fat burner and I’ll tell you all about it.. but how does a 6 years old know stuff like PTERODACTYL ..?? hahhahahaha!!! Apparently, she watched Scooby Doo – and they had said a word like that on one of the episodes. .muahahhahaha!!! My oh My..!!! I tell yer.. i wasn’t this smart.. when i was her age.. hahhahaha!!

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Growing Up

It felt like it was just a few months ago, that I had given birth to a lovely baby girl but yesterday, she told us at her grammie’s place that her teeth were loose, she was all panicky and we had to explain to her that it wasn’t gonna be right quick. Her grandmother did a better job in explaining why her teeth were dropping off – she told Chloe, it was because she was growing up. So here I am sitting and on this website www.adipexdietpills.org, I can’t help but think how much more we have to learn – to bring Chloe up properly. PB and I are first time parents – we wouldn’t have known to say something so intelligent .. hahhahaha!! yes.. live and learn. Yes.. we are very excited.. but on the other hand.. not looking forward to Chloe complaining she finds it hard to eat – my growing up baby. How we all wished they would stay this cute forever eh.

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Upbringing Differences

When I was growing up – watching my classmates parents hovering over them and bringing them lunch and snacks – makes me so inferior because my mom could never do that – because my mom was a working mom. My mom don’t even have time for day creams, much less try and go to school and peep at me during recess them. I’ve always thought that with my own kid, I am gonna do all the things that my mom couldn’t do for me – not of any fault of hers of course. But you see things are quite the different now – these days the school and teachers do not encourage the parents to be helicopter moms at all. Coming to school to watch your kid – does not make your kid a “special” kid – in fact – she could be taunted and laughed at for being such a baby.

But i’m not ashamed to let her teachers and principal know that I’m a helicopter mom – because that was the way i wasn’t brought up – and because of that – I don’t want to miss out on things that my mom missed out. I not only wanna be there when she wins a trophy – i wanna be there for everything. The school may have their rules and expectation but Chloe was brought up quite differently – she is a girl who tells me .. yer’re too awesome mom..!! just because i let her have an extra piece of chocolate.

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Grouchy Much DaddT?

Chloe doesn’t know how to spell Daddy – but she knows how to spell Dad – so if she wanted to write a note to Daddy – she spells it DadT – pretty creative eh..?? I thought so too. Chloe is a delightful child – I cannot ask for anything more but for good health for the kid. Of course, she can be a pain at times – but which kid isn’t eh..?? I try to explain to “ang moh” that his tone when he talks to the kid must not sound like he has joint pain, because that would only make the kid thinks that he is either upset, mad or worst – make her feel like she is a pain.

A kid will always be a kid – and if he/she doesn’t misbehave once in a while – you better be very careful because deep down inside – psychologically, i bet there is something wrong.. hahahha!! I lose it sometimes too.. but the kid knows that when i do – it’s because she had been really bad. I am usually very calm.. and when i scold her.. it’s in chinese – but that doesn’t mean that I am calm .. i just make an effort to stay calm and neutral tone .. even when i am agitated. Effort is needed as parents – to ensure you send out the right signal to your kid. I never want my kid to grow up .. thinking that her mother is crazy.. and her father is a grouch – neither do i want her to think that she is not wanted in our life – just because she gets naughty a few hours a day. Because no matter what – you wanna build self confidence not to the extend that your kid turn into a bully at school lah. But yes, a balance is required .. and effort must be taken – if you want kids or have kids.

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Blame It On Mama!

We barely got outta the Christmas break and Chloe had gone back to school for a few days and had gotten sick with a head cold. We had kept her home for a few days – just to be sure, unlike previous years whereby we were in a hurry to get her back to school – so she doesn’t miss out on thing and have a hard time catching up. Anyhow, she was better already but we have been waking up late – not only because the lil’ brat doesn’t wanna sleep but we as parents too don’t sleep early enough, I told the “ang moh” i would be needing the best acne treatments really soon .. if we continue to refuse to turn in.

So yes, the kid is late for school for 2 days – the “ang moh” grouchy every morning because the kid wouldn’t hurry and eat faster – but can you really blame the kid? NOPE! it’s more our fault – because we are adults and not a kid. So when the kid is late for school even if she was 5 mins late – we have to write a note for her. Yesterday – the kid came home and told me that the teacher had said – “hurry! chloe! you are late” in which i replied – “tell your teacher it’s mama’s fault – she woke up late”. This morning, we were late – i wrote a note to her teacher and in it – it said ” please excuse chloe for being late because we woke up 30mins later than usual – it’s entirely our fault – not the poor kid’s!”

So parents – don’t blame the poor kid and be honest – that’s the moral of the story – don’t be afraid to own up because you want to show the kid – that honesty is the best policy.

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Kid With Conscience or A Good Head On Her Shoulder?

The other day, I turned around while going on the treadmill and Chloe had just finished her dinner and trying to get to some stuff besides the computer table. She was quietly doing something behind me .. and when i turned around.. i saw her using a eraser from the back of her pencil rubbing it against the wall. The first thing that came into my mind was the kid must have been drawing on the wall – so I asked her .. “what are you doing?” .. i wasn’t shouting or anything.. but it made her jumped.

She quickly screeched and said “it was an accident .. mom..!!” in which i replied .. drawing on the wall isn’t an accident !” In which she replied – “i was trying to pick up something .. and my pencil slide on the wall and it marked the wall a little – i was just trying to clean it. I wasn’t drawing on the wall! i would never do that”

That actually set me thinking – actually – even when Chloe was very young, she never drew on the wall. She did put stickers on my coffee table though – but nope she didn’t jump on our couch nor our bed .. or even when Sarah invited her to jump on her bed .. when they had a playdate – she had said “no thank you” .. and when i asked her why she didn’t .. she had explained that it wasn’t very nice. So yes, we’ve raised a kid with conscience ? or a good head on the shoulder? I can’t complain eh.