I don’t like to scream, shout or raise my voice at Chloe – never been my style and I hope never will be. But like many parents – there comes a time – when we “do” raise our voices and scream at our child – after all we are only human. But I also read that there is the “good” kind of patience and the “bad” kind of patience – now that stumped me a little – isn’t being patience all good? apparently not!
So I quote from what I read – Good patience involves providing your child with time to complete tasks within their developmental abilities – unquote. So in other words – when you expect your child to do something – you have to give them enough time to make mistakes, fail and start all over again. Have the patience to let them do it right on their own – in other words – don’t be a helicopter mom like ME! hahahha!!
Ok the bad patience – getting your child to do the things you want them to do – may seems like good parenting and that you taught them well to the public – but like any good parents – a normal child will sometimes resist and they have their own thoughts over certain matters especially when they get older. It may seems at that time that ignoring the tantrums or resistance is good patient but it’s not. Yelling usually comes with resistance – but it doesn’t really work for me – because I feel absolutely bad after the yelling sessions. So what do you do? listen! listen to your child – work with her. Chloe likes that we help her to clean up – she doesn’t like doing it on her own – she feels bad when I get mad and clean up everything on my own. But I’ve learned to compromise – and help her to clean up – slowly but surely I feel she will know that she will have to clean up on her own. See the big picture – that was what i read. What about you? do you have good patience or bad patience?