And My Journey Thru' Breast Cancer
Godma Lynn is back in town for a week – and we already had a BBQ at the lodge with her – and it was really fun for Chloe despite the fact that she didn’t wanna get out of the car because there were dogs at the lodge. PB finally managed to carry her out of the car and get her into the lodge. We really had fun yesterday at the lodge – lots of good food and good company and I had brought along my korean friend with me to the lodge and she was happy to meet everyone.
This year with the store doing so much better and with our health all good, we figured we should give back to society and do more charitable work. We have given more time locally to do charitable work and also given out more stuff from the store whenever someone approached us. Recently, we have given something expensive and donated money to a local cause that we felt was neglected by the government and we are raising funds for this group. Many years ago, I’ve heard about a car donation service and what it does for people from different countries. PB and I had discussed about doing a bigger donation at the end of this year – besides giving to Haiti as Haiti had been the town’s main priority for years. Hopefully, we are able to give back more with the more we make but we want to do it as low key as possible, that way people won’t be jealous that we are making money enough to give away. You never know how people think and I guess there are the odd people around – who would try to do you harm when all you want to do is to do good unto others. So lesson learned, we want to continue donating but quietly.
Children bear no grudges – they may be fighting one day but the next day they forget and become good friends again. It’s only us adults who cannot get over things and stop talking to each other or avoid each other. We really have to take a page from our kid’s life and be like them – and not bear grudges and let bygones be bygones but it’s of course easier said than done. So when you kids keep coming back and whining about stuff to you – you may wanna check yourself first and see if you are behaving this way – children pick up their behavior from their parents and those they are closest with. Having said that, I guess I better check myself – because I know PB is not a whiner – so it has to be me – muahahha!! see there is so much to learn from being a parent.
Last week, Chloe and I spent the afternoon with good friends Lynette and Josh. Lynette was a customer who turned into a friend – a good one indeed – always there for me – and always fetching me about and she never say one thing bad about anyone or anything. When we spend time together – with our kids, it’s all about having fun and enjoying the day with each other.
Chloe had so much fun feeding the ducks because Lynette was so generous with not only her time but buying fresh bread to feed the duckies and doing all the running around with Chloe – and always paying attention to Chloe’s every word – I cannot ask for more in a friend. You can always count of Lynette and Josh for a good time and they never ever ask you anything personal.
Some friends of mine from back home – they want to know every detail of your life – even to the most intimate – but not Lynette – she respect your privacy yet she would listen to you patiently. I’m so blessed with good friends.
So the other day Chloe asked for some marshmallows for a treat after dinner and I had said that she had to eat some fruits first. So she wasn’t really that happy – but she went about doing her own thing. I didn’t know that she was cutting up her own fruits till I came out from the computer room and saw her doing this. She never ever cut her own fruits but she had her own mind on the marshmallow and fruits as you can see.
Yes, she cut her fruits with her not sharp knife and put them on sticks with blueberries.
And don’t forget th marshmallow too! yes, so she did learned all about a balance of good food and junk food – as you can see here. So all my teaching didn’t go in one ear and out the other – she does know all about balance and eating with moderation.
So how do you keep an active kid happy when she is stuck indoors? Not very easy – I have to tell you – but it’s not impossible if you have a Tom Kuhn yoyo ! it’s an old time favorite of mine and I thought Chloe how to do a few tricks that I know with my yoyo – and she was at first quite frustrated but when she learned how to do it finally – she was quite pleased with herself. I used to spend hours every day learning tricks with my yo yo and then we would compete with the neighbor’s kid and watch what they can do with it. Unfortunately, we didn’t have such a good yoyo – like Chloe has – we couldn’t afford it then, so Chloe is really lucky to be able to get whatever she wants – but she is on the move all the time and if a yoyo can keep her happy and occupied for a bit – i’m all for it.
Little does Chloe knows about it is all about her – and the little boss t-shirt that we had printed out for her out of fun – actually has more meaning to it. It is all about her – because even when Grammie was very sick and knew that she was not going to make it out alive – she was worried about her. Now that Grammie is gone – I too am worried to leave her when she is so young plus when Grampie is sick I’m worried too – and keeping my fingers crossed that nothing happens to Grampie because as it is – Chloe is so worried if one of us is sick. She is afraid that we might die and leave her.
Little does Chloe know that we all worked so hard at the store and online because we want to give her a better life. We don’t want her to grow up without anything nor having to worry about food and money for furthering her studies but it is all about her and I hope that when she grows up she knows that whatever we do – is mostly because of her – because we loved her so much.
Yes ! she is a very active child and all she wants is to go out and play, play, play! all day long if she can but it has to be with her friends. For being the only kid at home – this one certainly do not want to be alone. Lucky for me – she is in Canada – and space is aplenty and now that the neighbors are all her age – she has plenty of kids to play with too within the neighborhood.
I wished I had done the fencing earlier – because when she is out playing like that – I get worried for her – and have to watch her constantly. You never know what kind of people are out there.
I’m glad that the Boys and Girls club already mailed us the registration forms for the summer activities.
“We don’t lose friends. We just learn who our real ones are.”
So very true eh? I’m 47 years old this year and have a handful of friends only – and that’s because I’m quite selective of who I become friends with. Many people only call you as a friend when they need you and once they don’t – they just never really care for you. Or there are also those who are so superficial and only wants to make use of you.
I was chatting with PB today and we two go together really well because we loved our privacy a lot and cannot seems to entertain a lot – we loved staying home and doing our own things – whether it is reading or watching a movie or just going on the internet. I don’t think we can have a house guest for too long or a renter in our home even though our basement is almost done.
As for myself – i’m willing to help anyone – but to get really closed to someone – than it takes a lot more than just curry favor me or the spouse – we just isn’t into it. Good friends are hard to find – and I’m very blessed that I have a few and that’s good enough for me. Plus, 47 yrs later – it’s family that never fails you – PB’s side of the family – they are always around during the most difficult time.
Chloe’s cousin, May just had a baby boy and chloe asked me where’s the cigar for everyone? because I had told her in our culture, we give cigars to everyone when we have a boy – as boys are a celebrated baby back home. May’s baby is a beautiful baby – so maybe we should get her some fuente cigars to pass around when we she comes home to visit everyone with her baby after she is rested and able to travel. May lives in Toronto with her husband – and yes, she will be back this summer with her baby and we are looking forward to seeing her baby and her. I bet some friends and family here would be delighted to get some cigars from the new daddy.
