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Yes ! it’s that time of the year again and here you see Chloe’s grampie making me my very own pumpkin – how sweet! chloe was all excited when she brought it back on the weekend. You can’t carved the name on after it has grown – you have to crave it before it gets big.
And this is Chloe’s – nice eh – filled up the whole pumpkin with her name.
Last night – PB and Chloe watched Man in Tights – yes ! the older version of Robin Hood while they were having supper together in the tv room. So Chloe decided that she wants to be Mrs Robin Hood for Halloween this year – muahhahaha!! too funny!! she told us last night that we have to get her a hat with feathers on it and also some green tights and green cape today. So yes – now I have to look for a Mrs Robin Hood costume and a few infant halloween costumes for the friend’s kids. I love those cute infant costumes – they are just too cute and once again – I wished we had dressed chloe up for Halloween when she was an infant. We didn’t because we were stuck in the store working when she was younger. But Chloe loves Halloween so much – not only the collecting of treats but the giving them out too. She told us this year – we have to have a bowl of treats and that we are to direct all kids to her – when they come knocking at the store.
We are starting to receive our Halloween Party Invitations already and Halloween is a month away. Some people are really organized eh ? which makes me want to get our Christmas Party Invitations going to. Knowing what a procrastinator I am – and PB being the nonchalant type – if I don’t do it on my own – he’ll probably conveniently forget about it. So yes ! I’m ordering some special invitations soon – that way – I can start planning my Christmas menu and decide what to do for Christmas supper. I know it’s early but they say time flies and before you know it Christmas will be here. Do you have the list of people you want to invite for your Christmas party yet? I don’t – so I better start cracking.
I really have no problems with teenagers or adults swinging on swings – swings that doesn’t say – please do not swing if you are heavier than – so many pounds. I was at the park with Chloe for 2 hours – not only did i see teenagers swinging on baby swings – I also see a parent go on those rocking hippo with their babies. Really?? are they not aware that they can break the hippo and thus other kids – cannot play with them anymore? I have also seen adults going on the swings meant for kids *slap forehead* – really!!! it is after all a public park – so shouldn’t these adults have more brains? If they break them – their kids won’t be able to swing or play on them – not only other people’s kids. Of course, I didn’t say anything – but really???
Like many parents – we want the easy way out with our kids – so that we can carry on with what we are doing. Most times – it’s because we think we have no time – so we tell our kids – if you do this – I will do that for you or I will buy this for you. Are you as guilty as I am? some parents said it is not a bribe but a reward for good behavior – what do you say? is it a bribe or a reward?
I try and justify it as a reward but eventually you have to face up to the truth and it is a bribe. How do I know? because now Chloe would say to me – if i do this for you – will you buy me a toy? hhahaha!!! so yes – be careful how you reward your kids – because they will see it as a bribe and in the future – they are going to expect something from you every time you want them to do something – which they already should do it – because it is like their responsibility.
Yesterday evening – Chloe, PB and I were in the computer room and then she was talking about something and had the cutest, cheekiest smile – and I caught that cheeky smile in her – like the ones she had yesterday. Sometimes, I managed to capture it on photo – sometimes I don’t and I feel like the luckiest mom – because moments like that are priceless. So I asked PB – did you see that expression on Chloe’s face – in which of course PB did not – for his is oblivious most times – hahah! so I told PB – he is missing all the good stuff – coz’ they don’t stay young forever like this and they don’t have cheeky smiles like that forever too.
Kids are so precious and like I always said – God’s gift ! Chloe if you know her – you will know she is the cutest and sweetest kid. Sure she can be a brat – but most times – she is a pretty funny, mischievous and smart kid. She haven’t spent a lot of time with her grandparents – because for the last 6 yrs – she refused to go on her own to visit. This year in March – she decided that she would visit on her own – but come summer – her grandparents were too busy to take her every week. Now that fall is here – Grammie don’t even have one day a week to spend with her because she is still busy. I told PB – they are gonna miss out on the good times – she don’t stay this cute for very long. Soon she will grow older and she won’t wanna go anywhere with us – but her friends. Have you stopped and watch your kids lately? they don’t stay this cute forever. Stop – don’t miss out!
I often complained that PB don’t see enough of the positive side of Chloe – instead – he likes to growl at her. I know he doesn’t do it intentionally but that’s the way he is. To me – he sees the bratty side of Chloe – the side where she wants to get into his way all the time and seeking for attention all the time. To me – he sees a child who has no manners and interrupts us whenever we have to talk to a customer. I can fully understand PB’s frustration sometimes – I’m no saint either and of course – we want to teach Chloe the right ways too – but she is but a child – and sometimes I find that PB forgets that. I too, forget that sometimes – and have to constantly remind myself.
But I am able to constantly see the positive side of Chloe – like today – I brought her to the park and she wanted to pick chestnuts with another kid – and she was quite a distance from me – but I need not shout for her to come back – she motioned to me that she was going further but when she saw that i shook my head – saying no – she told the other kid – that she wasn’t allowed to go further. Now that i call positively amazing ! to me – I think she was really sensible.
This evening – after supper I wasn’t feeling good – and told chloe i was gonna lie down for a bit. Sure she came in several times and insisted that I have some light on – in the bedroom even though my door was open. But that’s only because she is a kid and she needed some sort of assurance. She came in several more times and woke me up each time – but I see the positive side in her – she still let me lie down for a bit. Are you seeing the positive side in your kid? I’m trying to make PB see those positive side in Chloe and not growl at her so much – just because she is being a kid. What about you?
Chloe went for a birthday party of her friend, Skye and even though we had gone thru’ some basic rules about how to behave when she was at the party – she still didn’t know how to play with the other kids. She ended up playing a lot on her own – but that’s ok with us. We told her no opening another lane – just because she didn’t want to wait for her turn. But what was most amazing was her friend Skye who is a year younger than her – seeing that Chloe wanted to sit beside her during cake time – asked her other friends if they could move aside for a space for Chloe. As you can see, Chloe was very happy here – Skye is the birthday girl in blonde/red hair – what a thoughtful little girl. But her parents are just as thoughtful too – so I guess Skye takes after her parents 🙂 I know! every kid is different – chloe will learn soon enough – I can’t wait for the day – where chloe would be this thoughtful with her friends.
I didn’t grow up playing with my dad – because he never came home – well, maybe once a year – but still we never play – nor read a book or anything. He comes home – my mom would serve him dinner – and then we all would already be packed in the room and getting ready for bed even though it is 7pm in the evening and the sun i still out. Yes ! we were that obedient – yet – my dad never appreciated it.
My siblings and I grew up being afraid of my dad – because he was only home to punish us – therefore, I never want Chloe to grow up this way – because it sure was a sad way to grow up. But we are always so busy at work – even though chloe comes to work with us everyday – therefore, we make sure we stop and play with her – even if we were busy. I also want Chloe to grow up to know her grandparents – so I make PB call his parents – to take her for a few hours if they can’t for more – that way – she doesn’t grow up not having played with her grandparents like myself. I grew up with regrets – regrets that i didn’t know my grandparents, my dad nor my cousins and relatives – so I don’t want history to repeat itself – I want Chloe to have a good childhood – so making time to play is an important exercise that I practice because of Chloe – what about you? is your spouse too busy to play with your daughter? if he is – make him make time – I do.
So we survived the first day back at school yesterday – in fact even better than I thought. This morning – Chloe said she didn’t want to bring her teddy to school no more – and no more sippy cups too. Woohoo!!! my girl is growing up eh? All the fuss about the sippy cup from her old school/teacher – and like we said – when she is ready – she will say no to the sippy cup – but nope – the ex-teacher – just won’t let go. Thankfully, her new teacher from last year – didn’t say a thing about it.
This year – Mrs Boudreau is also in her class and a new teacher – but Chloe already said she liked her new teacher even before school started – apparently – she already met her new teacher last year and thought that she was nice. Yesterday morning – when we met up with the new teacher – she was really nice – so we are quite happy about it. I foresee Chloe going some changes but I am confident she will do well this year – keeping our fingers crossed.