So we all know that I’m the adventurous one – and PB – well – he is PB – he doesn’t change and you young gals out there who think that they can change their men – forget it! they never change – you just go with the flow if you want the relationship to work (lesson #1 to #100). Anyhow lets come back to me being the adventurous one (blowing my own trumpet again) – but when the best friends said that they wanted to go see the blue grass festival this summer – I was all for it. They were bringing their families in their motor home aka RV and I wanted to do it too – after all, how can one go wrong with so many friends on the road together right? But being the paranoid one – I also want PB to check out on the 5th wheel warranty for our trailer – since we don’t have an RV – we thought we should borrow the trailer from PB’s uncle – who goes camping all the time. But I wanted to make sure that we were covered on the road – you never know what might happen right? so yes – as soon as we find out more about our trailer’s warranty – I think we are all set to go. Very excited that we don’t need to actually drive the RV but bring our SUV and the trailer along – that’s way easier. Blue grass festival here we come!
Fatherhood Changes Men
I asked PB if fatherhood had changed him – at first he said he didn’t know – and after a little bit more of questioning – he turned around and said yes – ” fatherhood made him a pussy!” muahahhahahah!!! I asked him what he meant – he said normally, he wouldn’t worry about the car – but now that he is a father – he had to make sure that the car was safe not for him but for the kid. He also said that he is worry that he might not be around when the kid is older. So touching right? Yes ! I think fatherhood had changed PB some – at least he is the tooth fairy who wrote with his left hand so that Chloe won’t recognized his handwriting – muahahah!!!
School BBQ For IWK
So I went for the school BBQ alone – i took a walk up to the school on my own and I stayed for the BBQ because Chloe had asked if I would go. She said – I didn’t need to go – but she hope I would go. She was too cute when she asked – she wasn’t demanding that I go – but she would loved that I go – actually PB and I – but since PB needs to look after the store – I went instead. It was a good BBQ – nothing spectacular – only another parent was there chatting with me and some of Chloe’s teachers. But it was a milestone for me – since I never go anywhere without PB – so yes – I’m starting to feel better it seems – I hope soon I will be able to drive on my own – so looking forward to driving!
Mini Vacation Gone Wrong
So we just got back from our mini – vacation to the city – and boy! was it a worrisome vacation. Our friend said I’m a worrywart but how can I not be – when the car was having trouble and our safety was in question. I was so looking forward to this mini-vacation because it had been 6 months since I had gone up to the city to savor my Japanese food and dim sum. And even though I did get to eat one meal sit down dinner at a Japanese restaurant and some dim sum – I know that PB wasn’t really enjoying it – nor was Chloe – because all the time during our mini-vacation – she said she wanted fish and chips *slap forehead*. We also lost some shopping time because we were out searching for a garage to look at our car – and our hotel room wasn’t the best at first but the hotel staff were excellent and tried their best to make our stay a great one. I had wanted to stay for another day – to get the car looked at first and also to get some more shopping done – but in the end – PB decided to come back on the schedule date *sigh*. So I rushed to get a few things done and get as much chinese food as I can get and then came back. All the way – praying for journey mercy from God. What a vacation!
Nurturing Your Child
Mother’s day just came and went but I’m still thinking of my mother and my family from home – and how different our style of raising our children are. While of course, my mother didn’t have friends and family who are supportive – I’m more blessed with PB – his family and lots of friends who gives me lots of support emotionally and physically. It warms my heart when Grammie said to bring chloe over this weekend – if she wasn’t too tired from attending a wedding in Moncton because I never had a grammie who was really closed to me. My grandmother passed away from cancer when I was 9 years old – and from my memories of her – she wasn’t the nurturing kind of grandmother because my grandfather was kinda a tyrant – so she was always tip-toeing around him. Therefore, I made it my mission – to make sure that Chloe has a more special relationship with her grandparents and extended family than I did. I feel it is so important – because I’ve always lived with regrets not knowing both sets of my grandparents because my parents were either too busy – or the other one didn’t care at all about extended families.
I grew up without a lot of hugging, kissing and chatting with my parents or grandparents – but with Chloe she is always surrounded with people that loved her and willing to play with her and read to her. I don’t believed in expensive clothing or toys but I certainly believed in spending quality time and being there for Chloe. I never encouraged expensive stuff – but I believed in healthy eating – even if they were more expensive – if they were good for her health – I would buy them. I believe in nurturing my child – supporting and encouraging her and not just giving her everything she wants, I believe in balance – I believe in moderation.
Target For Racism Already
So we went to pick Chloe up from her After School program today and she complained that she had a bad day. We asked why? she said one of her classmate – a boy said to her – that he hates CHINESE! *slap forehead*. We asked Chloe if she had spoken to her teacher about it – and she said yes – and that her teacher had spoken to her entire class about it. I don’t know how a 7 yrs old would said something like that to another kid in his class. In our household, we never use the word “HATE” – according to Chloe “HATE” itself is already a bad word. While we constantly teach Chloe right from wrong – why are other kids saying hurtful things to my daughter? What had that kid been taught at home or around home/friends? I’m curious to know exactly what is going on at this boy’s home/friends. Should I be worried for Chloe? or should i just brush it off as a kid’s thing – that they don’t know any better?
Flossing Her Teeth
Finally, she is ready to floss her teeth! for years – we’ve been trying to get Chloe to floss her teeth – and today she is ready to floss her own teeth without much fuss. Happy we are – because like all parents we want what is best for her – and we really don’t want to see her go thru’ another hospital trip to get her caps in and putting her to sleep. So yes! hopefully, she will continue flossing without much fuss – and now to push PB to get Chloe’s dental insurance in place – because MSI only covers her dental till she is 10 years old – and that certainly isn’t enough time to cover her braces and all.
Golf Course @ My BackYard
For those who are not aware of this – the golf course – for the country club is just behind our backyard – one of the main reasons why we bought our home there. It is a very beautiful golf course – lots of greens during spring time and also summer and it is my hope that I will one day pick up golf again. I used to play golf when I worked for a Spanish company – I needed to entertain our clients – so I would practice since my handicap is not even worth mentioning. My boss has a gps for golf course – yes! he was a serious player alright. Hopefully, this summer – I can get a chance to play again – coz’ my girlfriends from here – wants to play with me – I’m trying to do different things this year – to make my life a better and healthier one – I’m darn proud of myself alright!
I Love My Friends, But…..
I make long lasting friends – friends from far away and friends from near by – but it’s not easy to make friends with me because I am a very private person and don’t like any intrusion in my private life. It takes a long time for me to be someone’s “friend” – since you all know that PB owns his own business and everyone is a “friend” – but true friendship takes a long time to nurture for me.
After 11 years in Y-Town – I’ve only a very handful of real friends – I think 5 – if i am not wrong. All these friends are steadfast and are always ready to give a helping hand when I need one. All of them are very thoughtful and never expect anything in return from our friendship. They all understand that I can get very busy and don’t call or chat with them for months. We never argue – we have difference in opinion but we agree to disagree and we always think of them and include them whenever we can in our life.
Next month, I’m planning a spa party at a local spa with 3 other wonderful ladies – with their kids involved – all in the name of getting together and spending girl’s time together. I love my friends, but I’m not always available for them – so my “real” friends understands that – and don’t think I’m ignoring them – good friends are like a warm breeze when we get together.
Helping Hands
The chinese have a saying – no one wants to be bald if they can helped it. And no one want to borrow or get a loan with high interest either but look – life can be tough sometimes and as bad as people may say cash advances are – I beg to differ. Why? personal experience of course. Many years ago – the store wasn’t doing so great – and we need a bit of cash for a roll over at the store – and we couldn’t go to the bank – because they wanted a collateral that we didn’t have. So we had no choice but to get a high interest loan – and it took us a while to pay it off – but we knew what we were getting ourselves into and without this cash advance – we wouldn’t be where we are now. Our loan is paid off after several years – sure it was high interest – but what can we do – we needed the money BAD! the folks where we got our loan from never bothered us – we paid our loan monthly and religiously and we are debt free now – and we know how to make better choices now. So for those who say that cash advances are evil – it’s not true – it is you who made that choice to loan – so it is your responsibility to want to get out of debt. It is what you do after getting the cash advance that is important.