Category: The In-Laws

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Eulogy For My Father-In-Law

Hi, my name is XXX and I’m Budd’s daughter-in-law. Since he has always said that I’m bossy, I think it’s befitting for me to do the eulogy. I know Budd doesn’t like long eulogies, so I’m going to keep it really short. Firstly, I would like to thank everyone so much for being here this afternoon to support our family.

Budd was a kind and generous man, he never said no to anything I asked of him even if he didn’t like it. He would reply “I suppose”. I’ve asked Budd to make me a flower bed at our cottage and he did it for me. I asked him to make a coat hanger on a nice solid piece of wood, and he did it. I asked him to grow some okra for me and he did it. During his illness, I asked him not to die on me and he tried his best to make it through. I told him I wasn’t ready to let him go, so he said to me… he will try. My father-in-law never said no to me except when I asked him for mahjong money, but even then when I was doing radiation in Halifax and was so bored and asked him to sponsor me for my mahjong, he said ok.

Budd loved his sons Chris and Richard and granddaughter Chloe very much and would do anything for them. He knew how much Chloe loves peas, corn, strawberries, and raspberries, so he would have them ready for her every summer. He was a good friend to many, he was smart and always had something knowledgeable to share. You would always learn something new from conversations with him. Budd had a good sense of humor as well as an eye for good-looking women and he never had a bad thing to say about anyone. He was the best father-in-law anyone could ask for and I was privileged to have spent 21 years with him. I want everyoneto know how important he was to me, I’m going to miss him dearly but I know that he is no longer in pain and is back with Olivette now.

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Just When I Thought ….

Just when I thought that everything is gonna be better from now on and easier, we found out that my father-in-law was very sick. Yes, so sick that he can’t drink the bottle of vodka that we had gotten him during Father’s Day. That was when it hit me that he was very very sick. My FIL never refused vodka – any kind to be exact for the 21 years that I’ve known him, so when he told me he cannot stomach the vodka, I knew there and then that something was really wrong. My gut feeling wasn’t good at all about it.

Fast forward, he did go to the hospital, had brain surgery for his tumor behind his head, didn’t wake up immediately but finally did, gave us a huge scare. We headed up to the city immediately to visit him, he recovered from that and came back to the hospital in town. Was doing so so well, and they discharged him and less than 10 days was back in the hospital by ambulance because he didn’t have the strength to lift himself up.

After much tests, they concluded that he had a c. difficile virus that attacked his colon. It was a wicked virus and my FIL fought the virus as best as he could. I know that till the end, he wanted to make it and he left us on the 9th August 2021.

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OMG ! It’s March 2016 Already !

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Yes ! Life happened !  And of course , we had a nasty virus on our blogs and websites that was encrypted into our blogs automatically and apparently the virus had been dormant till now.  The script was in place a few years ago as far as we can see it and all of a sudden, it decided to create havoc in all of our blogs.  The spouse took time to clean out all the blogs , and if you must know , I have more than a few blogs that I use for monetizing purpose.  Yes , yes ! I make money thru’ blogging – bite me !

 And of course, Chinese New Year came about and we had to co-ordinate the celebration with our Asian friends , plus Chloe had some health issues and a girlfriend had and online boyfriend issue that actually left me quite perturbed and lost of words.  But lesson to be learned her , never , never play match – maker online or offline because you are caught in the middle of it and boyyy!  you kenna shit for nothing.   But you also get to see who your true friends are and who’ve got your back, so all in all , it was a good lesson learned.  You would think at almost 51 years old , I would have seen it all and done it all and avoided it all right?  But nope !  I guess one can be stupid still at 51.

 Anyhow,  my consolations are , the spouse, the kid and many of my friends had been very supportive throughout it all and I cannot ask for a better spouse , kid and friends .  Like the saying goes, you can never lose a true friend, you just find out who are the ones who are not.  And business continue to thrive and I was featured recently in a local article on Facebook – stoke !  And I managed to get a massage , my hair colored , manicure , pedicure  and all kind of good stuff done to my body.  I even got to play catch up with my girlfriends.  But I learned how to take are of myself and my family first and always ask for help from your neighbors because I’ve got some awesome neighbors now.

 

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Father’s Day 2013

Well, it had been a pretty busy month for us thus far – with a friend leaving and helping a girlfriend thru’ a hard time and another friend visiting from Australia.  So I thought I should update a little and let you all know that we are doing great – and that it had just been a very busy month for all of us.

Father’s day came and went – this year we had a BBQ as well – because that was what the father-in-law had wanted although PB wasn’t too keen on it as BBQ doesn’t go well with his tummy.  But he ended up BBQing grouchily – hahhaha! because John and George wasn’t good at it.  So next year I’ll remember to invite Garth and Jerry instead – those are the uncles who loved BBQing.

Chloe is at the end of her school term and as usual, we are busy with a lot of school activities during this month, from school luncheons to field trip days but overall, she is doing well, although she came down with a cold a few weeks ago.  Her lil’ friend layla left for Ottawa – so she was devastated for abit.  But they can skype alot because Chloe has a mini-ipad and the girls can keep in touch that way.

The store is still doing great – we are still looking for a bigger place to buy or rent – but nothing is really available at the moment, so we will continue striving good at this location.  The backyward had been hydro-seeded and we are looking forward to a warm and long summer.  More later.

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Interesting Read For Cigar Lovers

The father – in – law who loves cigars mentioned about  jonathan drew  and his column.  Intrigue by what he read, he told me to go read Jonathan Drew on the internet. And being the curious me, I loved reading and finding out just about anything, plus I do like the smell of cigar and maybe, this column can recommend some good places to buy cigars and how to differentiate a good cigar from a mediocre one. For those cigar lovers out there, check out this column, and although it  might be a bit shocking at first when you on the website, you will definitely get a better insight of cigars from this column and webpage.

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TV In The Kitchen

We all loved out TV shows especially the little brat and in order to make everyone sit down at the same time to have their supper, I’ve decided to go browse around for  standandmounts tv stands.  I also want to put in the kitchen/dining room – a LED TV, that way everyone would love to come have supper at my place.  At the moment, we just bring all our food to the basement and sit on the couch and watch tv, therefore, enough is enough, everyone needs to eat together at least one meal a day.

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House Renovation

The father in law is doing some major renovation in his old house and it’s about time because part the 100 yrs old house is sinking and some  spring mounts  is needed to jack the house up so that they can fix the bottom part and put in some reinforcement.  Thus far, he had been doing the work with some help and when we visited last week, the computer room felt more solid than it did in a long time.  I think the father-in-law is doing it the cheaper way instead of hiring professional help but it is his house, so I’m not going to butt in like I do all the time.  Andy from the apple farm was joking that the father in law should have done the renovation when the mother -in -law was still alive because she really wanted a better foundation for the house.  Oh well, at least he is doing it right?

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Birthday Gift From Grampie

$45 and she wants this doll – called Rubi – lucky for her Grampie and her Kai Mah wants to buy for her – but in the end, she didn’t want to use her Kai Mah “ang pow” money – so Grampie paid for it.   This year, Grampie had to pay all the money for her gifts because Grammie isn’t around anymore.  To me it’s not the money for buying things for Chloe, it’s more trying to let her know that things didn’t change much even though Grammie isn’t here anymore.  A month from today, it will be Grammie’s birthday – *sigh*  – this will be the first we are not celebrating with Grammie – sad.  But Chloe had a great birthday, Uncle Lloyd and Grampie came – the rest of Grammie sisters didn’t come.

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40th Birthday

It was PB’s birthday yesterday and being 40 and quite successful I might add – he should be really happy but this is also the first birthday without his mother.  For the last 39 yrs, Grammie had been baking him his birthday cake but this year Aunt Helena did the baking and we had a small celebration.  I write this with mixed feelings – bitter sweet actually, sad that the mother-in-law is no longer around but happy that Aunt Helena stepped up and is staying with us this holiday season.On the same note, PB is 40 – so I no longer feel that i’m that much of a cradle robber now – hahahah!

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Another First Without Grammie

First Halloween without Grammie – one of the many first *sigh*  – so sad but what can one do but to make sure we show our loved ones that we care for them.  But sometimes it is hard to visit because no proper food cooked for the kid in the evenings when we visit and no proper place to eat.  Plus sometimes Grampie is busy with his own stuff to do and cannot spend much time with Chloe when we visit – so it defeats the purpose when Chloe comes home and complains that she didn’t get to spend much time with Grampie now that Grammie isn’t around.  *sigh* but what can we do – we do try and I know Grampie is trying too – I guess he just don’t know how to play with Chloe yet – like Grammie did.  But he is trying and so is Richard.  She thought that Grampie was going to carve a pumpkin with her but in the end PB had to do it for Grampie was busy with other stuff.