PB has an aunt whom I admire greatly – because 2 of her girls turned out to be awesome girls and are now married and living happily – both girls finished their college and have jobs and no kids because they are living the Canadian dream. I admire aunt Sandra because she never raised her voice at anyone – not even her kids when they were teenagers. For the last 12 years – I’ve not seen her frazzled or upset at all. She is as cool as a cucumber and always showed so much love to all of us.
PB and I sometimes do raise our voice at Chloe when she is bad – and that of course has it consequences too – when she is upset – she raises hers. You see what good examples we are ? I am consciously telling myself to stay real calm with Chloe and am constantly reminding PB not to raise his voice even when he is upset with Chloe – because you reap what you sow. So folks out there – if you are wondering why your kids are behaving the way they do – first examine yourself – be very honest with yourself – and then you can punish your kids for being rude – but first – I think you’ve gotta punish yourself – for kids learned from their parents and people around them.