Category: Family/From the Heart

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The Box Of Paper Clips Are Fun-ner Than You

Yes ! that was what Chloe said to me today – and it was pretty funny I tell yer – and I was sure she didn’t mean to hurt my feelings but she was trying to tell me that I wasn’t spending enough time with her.  So when your 8 yrs old tell you something like that – you better change something and make sure you be fun – ner to/with her.

Yes, we all need to work but they are only young once and working is great – I make the money and all but it’s important to let her know that she is most important instead of saying just a minute please because I too notice that Chloe’s reply to us when we want her to do something is – ” just a min, please”   So from now on – I’m going to try my darnedest to play with her an hour at least after she comes home from school and then have an alarm clock up to show her I need an hour to work.

 

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Rounding Up 2011

A round up for 2011 – since it’s coming so closed to the end of the year.  So what have I done right or wrong for 2011 – what are my achievements for 2011.  Well, I started out wanting to be a healthier me – in 2011 and started with going to the dentist – but instead of making me smile – a few hundred dollars later – I came home with a few months of pain in the exact teeth that I had a filling – that wasn’t even bugging me.

Far forward a few months – summer came – Chloe finished her Grade 1 with good results but still having trouble with standing up for herself.  And this summer Chloe started playing with the neighborhood kids – and on the trampoline as well.  She had a great time doing that but not without a lot of getting used to – to other kids and compromising.    She went to day camp every day because she liked it a lot and had a good summer.  We only went out of town twice – this year – because the store had been so busy. Work wise at the store and myself – it had been a great year.  This year my regular advertisers were great to me and  i had a lot more private advertisers than I did last year.

Health wise – I’m still struggling to lose weight – and stay healthy but I have to work harder next year.  I also took control of my online life and gave up some games and some friends online – best moved I’ve made.  I didn’t have time for the online games (fb or mahjong) – nor did I have time to take care of others (because I started taking pills for my anxiety attacks).  I spent a lot more time with Chloe and helping her with doing well in school and reading especially.  I also took care of the house and myself a lot more than I did when I was taking care of others.  This year – Chloe did well in school and socially, I made more friends than I did in my entire life both online and offline – spent more time with friends from here – and gotten a friend to help out at the store in May and it is still working perfectly well – no stress ! thank God!   This year I got more involved with the things happening around downtown and this town.  This year things had to change because I had to set my priority right and I’m glad I did what I did – because some people are never happy with the good things that is happening in your life.  The business tripled its sale from the previous years and we had more customers come thru’ our door more than the last few years.  We also ate more often out – and going to different places to try different food around town and a little ways out of town.

This year had been a great year – despite a few unpleasant things – I count my blessings.  What about you?

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Christmas Eve 2011

Christmas eve came and went – and I woke up very tired the next morning because the kid didn’t wanna sleep on the eve and woke up extremely early on Christmas day excited to open her presents.  We didn’t get to bed will almost 4am last night because Chloe kept waking up asking if it was time yet – or if Santa came yet.  So it took us some time to wrap up all the presents we got for her and those from Santa.   But it’s finally over and another 364 days to Christmas again !

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My Baby Turned 8 Today

Yes!  Chloe turned 8 yrs old today – but she is down with a cold and fever – slight one – thank God!   She has grown so tall and so smart – I cannot asked for more.  8 yrs ago today – I gave birth to her in Yarmouth Regional Hospital – she was 7 pounds 1 ounce – a healthy baby with a head full of hair.  The doctor who delivered her was a doctor from out of town, Dr Macbeth – after my C- section – I lost a lot of blood but it was worth it  Chloe brings so much joy to us – and she makes us so happy!  I thank God everyday for her.  All I wish for her is to be healthy always and to grow up with integrity.  Thank you everyone who have been with us for as long as Chloe was born – I started this blog to journal her upbringing and I never looked back.

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Raised $725 For School

Yes ! Chloe raised $725 for her school – thanks to the many generous uncles and aunties online and her Kai Mah – plus all the customers at our store.  So here is prove that the money had gone to the school and Chloe won in bringing in the most money and thus she got to cut her principal’s hair.  She had so much fun it was hilarious.

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A Self Sufficient Kid

So I want Chloe to grow up to be a self sufficient kid – but I sure started late.  Like all parents – and especially the first time ones – we tend to hover and over protect our babies and seriously, that is quite normal because we loved our kids and we don’t know any better.  As for me – there was no one to teach me – for my own upbringing was entirely different.   But one thing I’m very proud of Chloe is – she learned to clean after herself  (toys) when she was very young.  She can mess up the entire room – but when it is time to clean up – she does a great job!

But the dressing up, bathing, picking her own clothing and pouring her own drinks – all these came only at a later stage – and I’m not ashamed to say that it’s completely my doing because I’m the helicopter mom. But for moms-to-be or the new moms out there – children are a lot more resilient and a lot smarter than we give them credit for and they are capable of doing a lot more than we think they can.

So I keep reminding myself – all the time – to help Chloe grow into a self-sufficient kid – so that she will develop her self-identity and to learn that she is a competent lil’ girl and worthy of her friends and anyone around her.

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New X’mas Tree 2011

This year we are really late in putting up our Christmas decoration at home even though the ones for the store – was up straight after Halloween.  I think that has to do with having Gary around – so I got lazy at home – plus we were busy trying to get Chloe’s birthday going.  Our new X’mas tree this year was bought last year after Christmas  – so we got this pre-lit tree cheap – less than 100 and it’s 7 ft tall.   Chloe always have a good time – putting up the Christmas decoration – and we finally put up the trees and lights today.  I can’t wait for Christmas to be over – and things can go back to normal.  Thus far, it had been cold – but not terrible yet.

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Stop Yelling At Your Kids

 

PB has an aunt whom I admire greatly – because 2 of her girls turned out to be awesome girls and are now married and living happily  – both girls finished their college and have jobs and no kids because they are living the Canadian dream.  I admire aunt Sandra because she never raised her voice at anyone – not even her kids when they were teenagers.  For the last 12 years – I’ve not seen her frazzled or upset at all.  She is as cool as a cucumber and always showed so much love to all of us.

PB and I sometimes do raise our voice at Chloe when she is bad – and that of course has it consequences too – when she is upset – she raises hers.  You see what good examples we are ?  I am consciously telling myself to stay real calm with Chloe and am constantly reminding PB not to raise his voice even when he is upset with Chloe – because you reap what you sow.  So folks out there – if you are wondering why your kids are behaving the way they do – first examine yourself – be very  honest with yourself – and then you can punish your kids for being rude – but first – I think you’ve gotta punish yourself – for kids learned from their parents and people around them.

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He’s 39

Yes!  PB is only 39 and he turned 39 a few days ago – but I had completely forgotten the date –  and only later in the day did i remember – muahahah!!!  I’m guessing it’s because we are too familiar with each other that birthdays and Christmases or Valentine day is just another day to us.   I don’t know about you – but after so many years together – the romantic and the heart beating part is not so much there no more.   Don’t get me wrong – of course i love the man – but he is very the unromantic – if you get the drift! I don’t expect flowers and champagne everyday but mannnn!!!  he doesn’t plan for stuff like that – quite boring right?

My mom used to say that a boring man is an honest man – but I have to tell my mom that she is not completely right – hahha!! the honest part is right – but mannn ..!! the boring can kill!  but yes! he was this way when i met him and I don’t expect to change him – but really – if his form of romantic is bringing me and the kid out for lunch once a week and he is buried in his kindle – now I could smack him for that.   So a little balance is good – some interest to be shown to the kid and I would be nice, hmmmmm … I’ve gotta think of a clever way to explain all the above to him without sounding mad or whiny.

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Fibbing

So we wanted to go grocery shopping because it had been busy during the weekend and we didn’t get to go.  We arrived at M & M meat shop and the kid tells me she don’t feel well and that her tummy hurt, and like all moms – we rushed to go home without the groceries.  But the ride home in the car – she said she felt ok but we were already half way home.  So I had told Chloe that if she was fibbing – I would be very mad with her.

Got home – she rushed to the toilet – but of course, she didn’t poop – what a surprise – she insisted she was fibbing – but I think otherwise – so what would you do?  Time out?  ground her?  or give her the benefit of doubt.  Well, we gave her the benefit of doubt but also explained to her that fibbing is not right – and that we don’t tell lies either.  That night I also wrote Chloe a note to remind her the Santa loves lil’ girls who are honest and tells the truth and in the morning – she did have a unusual huge poop before leaving for school.  So yes, lesson to be learned here – gotta give the kid a benefit of doubt – but on the other hand – I should have brought her to the mall’s washroom.  The next time I would know what to do.