Mother’s Day just came and went by and on that day, I cannot help but think of my own mom. Do not get me wrong, I don’t think my mom is a bad mom but she was definitely different. And even though she was treated with biased gender animosity, she too treated us, girls, with the same biasness. Sad but true, so the boys in our family always came first, no matter what.
But my mom did love all of us in her own way but differently. And I don’t blame her coz’ she had a really hard life and my dad wasn’t a good man at all, who didn’t give her any support in raising us. So we were practically raised by a single mom. When we were younger, we did not understand all the hardship she had to go thru’ but now as a mom I do. And I have full support from my spouse and extended family and friends.
I’m definitely luckier than my mom coz’ I had a little bit more education and wasn’t willing to stay in a bad relationship like my mom. I think during those days, women felt that they had nowhere to turn to but in this day and age, no woman should stay in a bad relationship especially one as irresponsible as my dad. I’m luckier because my partner is a good father and a good provider for both my child and I. My extended family is good to me and even though I cannot differentiate sometimes if my mom was a good mom or a bad one, I just have to remember that she tried her best to bring us up the best she knew how.
As for me being a mom, I credit my kid’s upbringing to her dad because he had always been a great example to/for her and good blood from his side of the family. I think my side of the family is bad blood. LOL. And as my kid’s mom, I just want her to be happy and to live her life to its fullest and not fear anything. Then my job is done as a mom.