Category: Amusing/Musing

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Does Everything REALLY Happen For A Reason?

Often it is the deepest pain that empowers one to grow into your highest self – so I heard many times. But does one really have to go thru’ the pain of death or sickness to become one’s best? If it is true then it has gotta be the hardest lesson one has to go thru’ and no one in my opinion should go thru’ something so painful as health, sickness, and death. But of course in the perfect world, this ain’t gonna happen

Some ppl also said that one day, everything will make perfect sense, really?? But I guess, for now, one just got to live life at its fullest and do what makes one happy eh? And I’m trying to look at things even more simply and happily but sometimes it does get hard. I wanna do the right thing for everyone but sometimes others do not see it that way but do I wanna care what others think ? No not really , unless they are my spouse and kid , everyone else don’t matter.

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Voting & Illegal Immigrant

Every time when voting comes along – whether it is for town/provincial or federal – i don’t have to vote because I’m not a Canadian citizen but a permanent resident. I enjoy everything Canadian benefits but I just cannot vote and that’s alright with me because I wanna keep my Citizenship in my birth country.

But every time when election time comes, I have great fun in telling the volunteers that I’m not voting and only the spouse will be because I’m an illegal immigrant. LOL I have so much fun seeing their facial expression and their reaction. Most of them don’t know how to react and some just ignore me and that’s alright and no one was ever rude to me or calling immigration on me. So you see, the Canadian are fairly nice people eh.

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Maitri

“May I be happy, healthy, safe, and live with ease.” Repetition is key, as well as catching yourself when you aren’t being so friendly to yourself. You can recite aloud or silently any of those four slogans as necessary throughout your day.

I’m going to need to remind myself constantly from this day on to be kind to myself and that the whole world does not need saving. I’ve been pushing myself really hard these days and in return – also pushing the spouse to ferry me around to do good deeds and things I feel it is the right thing to do for others. But I need to learn to take care of myself first – especially now that I’m fighting cancer. In other words, I have to remind myself to stop being such a kaypoh !!!

Maitri is the path of developing an unconditional friendliness toward every part of our sweet selves—so that we can be fully available to ourself, our life, our loved ones, and this world.

Maitri is about more than self-care. It’s about more than spa days and epsom salts.⁠

It’s about becoming strong, grounded, confident, resilient, relaxed, with a light touch. It’s about becoming ourselves.

It’s not about Self-Help—it’s not about getting “better”—it’s about recognizing the sweet heart that’s always been here.

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Father’s Day 2021

So Father’s Day is a few days away and on my facebook page, I see and am friends with a lot of upstanding fathers. I am so happy that there are so many good fathers out there including my spouse and his father – my father-in-law.

But of course, I cannot help but think of my own dad who was never there for me or my siblings. It’s actually quite sad for him because we were all good kids and we turn out pretty good despite not having him in our lives.

And I’m happy to tell everyone from my past and present what a good dad the spouse is to the kid. I cannot ask for a better dad for my kid, in fact, I think he is better with the kid than I am. Not only is he there for her , but he pays for everything the kid needs. He brings her to the doctors, the dentist and any appointments she has and pick her up and drop her off religiously to anywhere she wants to go. Understanding her and never forcing her to do anything she doesn’t want nor embarrassing her in front of her friends like her mom does. LOL.

Yes, anyone can father kids but to be a real dad – not many ppl are up to it. And I can proudly say that my kid’s Dad is the best to her.

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My Mother

Mother’s Day just came and went by and on that day, I cannot help but think of my own mom. Do not get me wrong, I don’t think my mom is a bad mom but she was definitely different. And even though she was treated with biased gender animosity, she too treated us, girls, with the same biasness. Sad but true, so the boys in our family always came first, no matter what.

But my mom did love all of us in her own way but differently. And I don’t blame her coz’ she had a really hard life and my dad wasn’t a good man at all, who didn’t give her any support in raising us. So we were practically raised by a single mom. When we were younger, we did not understand all the hardship she had to go thru’ but now as a mom I do. And I have full support from my spouse and extended family and friends.

I’m definitely luckier than my mom coz’ I had a little bit more education and wasn’t willing to stay in a bad relationship like my mom. I think during those days, women felt that they had nowhere to turn to but in this day and age, no woman should stay in a bad relationship especially one as irresponsible as my dad. I’m luckier because my partner is a good father and a good provider for both my child and I. My extended family is good to me and even though I cannot differentiate sometimes if my mom was a good mom or a bad one, I just have to remember that she tried her best to bring us up the best she knew how.

As for me being a mom, I credit my kid’s upbringing to her dad because he had always been a great example to/for her and good blood from his side of the family. I think my side of the family is bad blood. LOL. And as my kid’s mom, I just want her to be happy and to live her life to its fullest and not fear anything. Then my job is done as a mom.

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4 Yrs Later

Yes, it had been quite a while since I last journal. I wonder why I stopped – was it because I was too busy or was it because I didn’t want some folks in this town to misconstrue what I wrote and take it wrongly.

But hey! at 56 years old and fighting cancer this very moment, I do not care what or who reads what and take things wrongly. I cannot be bothered. Life is too short to worry about other people. I live for now and for myself and my family not for you , or you or you.

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Easter Gifts For Chloe’s Teachers

You all know how I feel about thanking Chloe’s teachers every year during any kind of special occasions right?  Yes, and this year ain’t any different because Chloe’s teachers does a lot for her.  Afterall , these teachers spends like 6 – 7 hrs a day with my child and they nurture her and bring her up to be a proper human being, so how can I as a parent not show any appreciation right?

But this year , Chloe was afraid that her friends may think that she is bribing her teachers, in which I explained to her that it is in our culture to show gratitude to our teachers.  And this is not the first year we ‘ve been doing this , we do it every year.  So she shouldn’t feel this way at all , but the kid was reluctant until I spoke to some teachers who visits our store right in front of her about gifting for the teachers and they all agreed with me that all teachers will appreciate it.

Plus , when i show my appreciation , it is not just for one or two teachers , it is for all the teachers that is teaching chloe that very year.  So no one should feel slighted.  I had even wanted to give to the administrative staff but Chloe said she didn’t know them too , too well in this new school , so I didn’t.

So my questions is , does anyone do as I do these days?  or am I the only one?

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52 Years Of Age

Yes , I turned 52 years of age today and it’s kind of surreal for me.  Little did I know many years ago that I would be in Canada for this long.  I had thought that the spouse and kid will return home with me and live a happily ever life in Singapore.  LOL.

But the spouse is happy here and so is the little princess of mine.  Even though she doesn’t know that she is like a princess to us.  You see , we Asians don’t show the kids that we love them by smothering them , we chastise and we push them to aim for higher.

This year , I got loads of presents !  SURPRISED !! and yes , I’m darn loved over here okay ! hahahah!  but seriously , I am pretty much loved by a lot of people especially PB , the princess of mine and my sisters from another mother.   Truly grateful this year that I’ve so many people come wished me Happy Birthday and most importantly I have PB and Chloe with me.

 

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Is It Spring Yet ?

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Yes, is it Spring yet , I asked PB everyday.  You would think that I know better already to expect the weather to warm up so early in the year but one can always be hopeful right?  Afterall, we did have a very , very mild winter this year , in fact , I think we only had one big snow storm or maybe 2 ?

But I want Spring to hurry up and come because I have lots to do to prepare the cottage for summer and plan for a huge BBQ and also the arrival of my friends from home this summer.  I can’t wait to see some of them and hopefully, I can get Chloe’s godma from Singapore to come visit as well.  But my girlfriends from my Alma Mater are coming this summer and I cannot wait to host them.

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OMG ! It’s March 2016 Already !

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Yes ! Life happened !  And of course , we had a nasty virus on our blogs and websites that was encrypted into our blogs automatically and apparently the virus had been dormant till now.  The script was in place a few years ago as far as we can see it and all of a sudden, it decided to create havoc in all of our blogs.  The spouse took time to clean out all the blogs , and if you must know , I have more than a few blogs that I use for monetizing purpose.  Yes , yes ! I make money thru’ blogging – bite me !

 And of course, Chinese New Year came about and we had to co-ordinate the celebration with our Asian friends , plus Chloe had some health issues and a girlfriend had and online boyfriend issue that actually left me quite perturbed and lost of words.  But lesson to be learned her , never , never play match – maker online or offline because you are caught in the middle of it and boyyy!  you kenna shit for nothing.   But you also get to see who your true friends are and who’ve got your back, so all in all , it was a good lesson learned.  You would think at almost 51 years old , I would have seen it all and done it all and avoided it all right?  But nope !  I guess one can be stupid still at 51.

 Anyhow,  my consolations are , the spouse, the kid and many of my friends had been very supportive throughout it all and I cannot ask for a better spouse , kid and friends .  Like the saying goes, you can never lose a true friend, you just find out who are the ones who are not.  And business continue to thrive and I was featured recently in a local article on Facebook – stoke !  And I managed to get a massage , my hair colored , manicure , pedicure  and all kind of good stuff done to my body.  I even got to play catch up with my girlfriends.  But I learned how to take are of myself and my family first and always ask for help from your neighbors because I’ve got some awesome neighbors now.