Approaching 50 !

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In a few months or so, i will be turning 50 – 5 decades, the real 5 0  !!  wow!  surreal ?  a little but I think this year had been such a productive year for me and a lot of growing done.   You must be wondering about the growing part right?  what is  this about the growing ?  after all, at almost 50 what the hell “growing”  am I talking about ?

When you are approaching 50, you tell yourself, you don’t really want to care a lot about what people think of you but to live life to its fullest and do whatever makes me happy.  So this year, I concentrated on doing what i love most, blogging and vlogging and boy!  was it a great experience being able to network with other vloggers and bloggers.  This year, I concentrated on what’s most important to us, meaning, chloe and the spouse and since we have been investing more on properties and buying and renting, it had kept us busy for the most part.  And I’ve done away with a lot of people around my life.  Being “friendly”  is not enough to be considered a friend no more, I have no time for “friendly”.

I also quickly realized that at almost 50, I didn’t want to waste time on people you don’t care to be with or be friendly to.    And I don’t want to do things that I feel oblige to do or be polite to people I don’t want to be polite to.  I don’t want to go beyond my call of duty to please or be a do gooder ,  I just want to do what makes me truly happy.

As I’m approaching my 50, I couldn’t care less about what others think of me or my blog, I  want to write what i feel or how i feel at that particular moment and not having to worry about the person reading about it might get offended.  Because it ain’t about them, it’s about me and how I feel and the situation I was in at that point of time.  I don’t want to bend over backwards for people who ain’t important in my life or worry about what they would think of me if I didn’t do what is “appropriate”

This year, because of my “growing up”  I’ve traveled a lot more and networked so much with both Google and Youtube that I could never have done before,  had I worried about what people would think of me leaving my daughter with the spouse alone for days.  In other words , when you’ve lived almost 5 decades, what’s most important in life is me, myself and my family, the rest can take their turns when I have the time.  If they don’t like it, it’s not my problem.   What’s is important is getting enough rest and giving enough time for my daughter and spouse and taking care of our health and most importantly not having apologize for being a success in our life, both home and at work.

There’s no pretending here nor am I ashamed to write I have the best spouse and the best kid (in my humble opinion), we have a successful business and we own our own place and a cottage by the beach and many acres of land to develop as well as several houses out for rent.  I can also  afford to up and travel anytime I want and buy anything I want not just need.   We have enough money saved up for Chloe’s college and a little more for her traveling.  If people are offended because of it, so be it.   They are entitled to their opinion and it doesn’t affect us one bit.

When you are almost 50, like yours truly,  you can tell people exactly what you think of them and stop making excuses for their behavior.   When you are almost 50, it’s okay if another do not agree with the way you are bringing up your kid or the way you speak or write, it’s not my problem, if they want to take it whatever way they want.    When you are almost 50 like I, you don’t have to like everyone, and you can ignore your crazy ex – neighbor, crazy church friends as well as your crazy customers.

PS  :  At almost 50, it’s ok not to have to justify what you do online or offline to anyone especially to people who are insignificant in your life.  

I’ve Been Busy

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Yes, I’ve been so busy doing a little traveling for work to Seattle lately and haven’t been online a lot.  But I only go for a few days and rush back because I don’t want to be away from Chloe too long.  Between vlogging and signing up for a book deal and of course writing all about migrating to Canada as a minority (asian) it had kept me so busy that I cannot be at the store all the time now.

Nevertheless, I’m enjoying every moment of this new experience and making a lot of connection with some advertisers as well as my communications people.  The only cons is that I have to be away from the family from time to time but I think most things are pretty much organized now, therefore, I can do my work from here and send them all my work over the internet.

Vlogging is so fun and it’s so rewarding.  Life cannot be better !  did we tell you that we bought another property for investment?  yup!  it’s been an exciting summer!

My Lil’ Artist Girl

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I’m happy that we are parents who encourages our child to get as much exposure to many different things and try various hobbies.  Even though both PB and I are very busy, we still try very hard to send chloe for various activities.  Alternatively, chloe has her aunt to fetch her to and fro from various venues.

Keeping Your Marriage Healthy

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A healthy marriage  is a happy marriage.  Besides not owing anyone money and having a flourishing business, the spouse would surprise me once in a while by buying me flowers and gifts that he knows I would love to have.  The spouse is a good provider, I never have to use my own money for anything, I even get a pocket money from him each month.  Money for me to splurge and to buy the things I wanna buy.

Some might not think that he is very talkative or funny but to me, he can be if he wants.  He is always there to help and never whine about anything even when he is ill.  He does all the heavy duty stuff , like mowing the lawn and bring the laundry up and down the basement and carrying all the groceries.

We talk about everything under the sun and moon and have total trust in each other, he is very supportive in any venture or direction I want to take in raising Chloe or my online work. We don’t argue at all, if he doesn’t agree with me, he would let it go at that moment and only chat about it when I’m calm down.  As for work at the store, we are totally in sync when it comes to dealing with customers.  We loved our jobs and our life and every now and then, the spouse would surprise me with flowers, perfumes, handbags and eye lash luminizer, what else can a woman ask for right?

Upper Clements Park

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The summer has gone by so fast this year, it’s crazy! and since we haven’t really done much for the kid, except for traveling for my work, thanks to Youtube for all the sponsorship, we decided that we should go to Upper Clements Park just for a day for her.   Chloe was so excited that she couldn’t sleep the night before and woke us up like several times during the night.

The kids had a really good time, poor me, I had to walk up a hill, and I told PB that he and Chloe must be trying to kill me to replace me for a younger version of me … hhahahaha!!!   We were there for like 5.5hrs and went to visit our cottage after that to cool off, so all in all, we spent the entire day out.  The kids were exhausted and slept all nite without waking up that nite.

PS:  I noticed that this year, Chloe would go on more rides than she did last year, so I’m hoping by next year, she will be more ready to do more things in Disney in Florida.

Simply Joyous

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The summer had been going so well for all of us , from store front to home front.  Chloe is enjoying her summer camp and looking forward to art classes both at the Yarc and the art gallery.  She has several play dates a week and is quite popular of late. And this morning, we saw Pinot and Augustine who will be performing at the Yarc.  Chloe said she didn’t mind watching them at the Yarc, so we booked tickets for the show on Friday.

She continues practicing her piano and reading daily even though it is summer holidays and we shall start with some Grade 5 school work with papers that we received from a friend in Halifax.  We looked forward to August because we will be traveling quite a bit for my work as well as squeezing in a short holiday with Chloe.

At the store front , we have a friend who is helping us out when we are on vacation this year and we are so happy about it.  I know that PB will be able to relax because this friend is pretty smart when it comes to manning the store.  Thus far, he is the only person who didn’t need a lot of training.

We are also spending our weekends at the cottage and just last week, the neighbor at the cottage stopped his truck to say how beautiful we’ve turned the cottage into.  But the cottage is not even completely renovated yet, we still have work to do.  Wait till he sees the inside when everything is done.

Did I also mentioned that someone from the United States wants to buy an acre of land from us at the cottage for $80K?  yup ! you heard right! and right now, we are negotiating the price because the piece of land is right by the beach.  So yes, simply joyous!  cannot ask for more.

My Favorite Kinda Shoes

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My shoes came! woohoo!!!  i loved this shoes so much and had wanted to get a pair for the longest time but because of the custom charges, I am adamant not to pay a lot for custom.  So I waited for it to go on sale and it really did and for the ones that I wanted.

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And I didn’t have to pay for custom because it came by USPS and not by Fedex or UPS.  Love ! love ! love! and yes, it’s all leather there.

Appreciating The TEachers

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So Chloe had handed me a list of teachers and TAs and staff from school she wanted to thank.   And if you know my Chloe, you will know how much she enjoys school except for the first year with her french teacher and the little boy who keeps touching her bum from another school.  Subsequently, we never had any trouble and she enjoys all her teachers very much.  Chloe is always grateful for all the attention that her teachers gives her and those given to her by Mr Purdy her principal as well as Mrs Rose, who takes care of her lunch everyday.

She listed all the reasons why she wanted to thank everyone on her list and she even reminded me that she wants to thank Mrs OB because she is her favorite teacher.  She loves her current teachers as well, Mrs Eyre and Mrs Bridgeo and have nothing but good things to say about her teachers.   She loves her TAs Ms Holly and Ms Patsy because of them, she is able to concentrate in class while they take care of other students. This year, she also has a french teacher – Mdm Rhyno and Chloe just adores her  – Chloe said that because of Mdm Rhyno , she loves her french.

I am so grateful for all of Chloe’s teachers, past and present and of course the librarian and Mrs Rose, who is a friendly face to Chloe when she is in school.  They all make attending school so much fun for Chloe and she loves school so much, you can never find another happier kid than Chloe when it comes to going to school.

Every year we try to do a little something for all these special educators, I know we don’t do enough to show how much we appreciate them but we try every year.   From the bottom of our heart, we want to thank them for helping Chloe grow into a wonderful kid, because of them, Chloe will be a fine young lady in the future.

Repotting

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For the longest time, I never had time to plant or beautify my lawn or garden.  Plus everytime, I’m ready to do it, the bugs and mosquitoes are in full force.  Last year, a friend made a huge flower planter for us – of course we paid him for the trouble, so this year, I’m repotting some flowers on my own.  I’m really enjoying it so much , as my current neighbors are wonderful people.    And they are so good with the kids and never sweat the small stuff. Chloe would go over to play with their little boy and no complains.

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I’m loving the potting and repotting of plants, my MIL would be proud of me if she was alive today.

Back To Nature

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I have a wonderful father-in-law, not only does he grows baby bok choy for me because I missed veggies from home, he does all the cool stuff for Chloe, like building chloe first swing for her and now another one in his house.  We even had our own camp fire , so that Chloe can roast her marshmallows.

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Chloe had so much fun and so did I.  I loved going out and enjoying the fresh air, minus the bugs and mosquitoes.

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Here’s chloe on the swing , with PB , grampie and Aunt Helena looking on.