Category: Family/From the Heart

We all love our kids.. and we all wanna do what is best for our kids. But hold your horses.. when you think that what works for you .. will work for yours. Like myself, I love to know things in advance.. but that doesn’t mean that it is the best for Chloe as I’ve come to find out from time to time. Even the best intentioned moms can be wrong – like me loving to use Medifast coupons but not for others – but donch beat yourself up.

An example of what happened is this – I’ve always thought that it was best to prepare chloe for any changes or transitions coming up like a dental appt or a doctor’s appt or even a birthday party was the best thing for the child. But I found out that it was actually a mental torture for her – because she would be so worried about the event the minute i tell her.. that she would anticipate that she was gonna be sick or she would be worried about the toilet issue she had before. It seems like the more warning and preparation she had, the more time she had to get worked up for them.

So we tried something else, and instead of preparing her way in advance.. we just hopped into the car .. and told her about it in the car and make light of the whole event. Yes, she did have a few minutes of being stressed but it was definitely much better than a few days of anxious anticipation.

However, I have to stressed that this approach does not work for everybody or every child. Temperament certainly does affect a child’s ability to deal with surprises or changes and different temperaments requires different approaches. For some children little or minimal warning work well, others need more time to prepare themselves. It is often trial and error on the parent’s part to suit your child’s personality.

One also have to remember that children are way smarter than we care to give them credit for. Their concerns about changes and planned events are not based on their own fears but on the feelings they are picking up from the parents. So be careful what kind of vibes you are sending to your kids. And i can prove this .. because if you meet PB .. and see his nonchalant manner.. when he deals with an “ignorant” customer/s – and you look at his parents.. you will understand why. Because unlike myself, PB is the “whateverrrrr” type and in many ways, i hope Chloe will be this way. What about you ..??

Yes..!! a MIRACLE..!! and definitely something to celebrate. 3 nights ago, Chloe started going to her bedroom and went to sleep in her bed.. without having us to carry her to her bedroom after she falls asleep in the tv room. Amazingly, the second nite got easier.. and the third .. she did watch some tv.. but after the show, she brushed her teeth.. and we said our goodnites.. and she went to sleep in her own bed in her bedroom again. Hallelujah..!!! it should get better from now on. So for those out there.. who are like us.. or co-sleeping.. it will come.. there is hope.. and light at the end of the tunnel.. just hang in there.

I was trying to kill many birds with one stone last nite .. when I got home with the brat. I had to cook her chinese noodles.. but she changed her mind half way.. and wanted wanton noodles instead.

So I had to quickly put away .. the other noodles.. and cooked her wanton noodles instead.. but I kept my cool – since i had a nasty mosquito bite on my thumb.. from the South End park we were at yesterday afternoon. Yes.. i’m allergic to those darn sucking parasites.

So after cooking her food.. i had to cook my bake salmon too.. because i had promised myself.. that I would eat fish twice a week – even if it means .. having my food later.. because the brat wants to play with the neighbour’s kid whenever she sees him outside.. when we come back.

So she sits and eat her food.. and said.. “sorry mom! i just love wanton noodles so much – it’s the best food in the world” .. *roll eyes* what can you do right..??

So while cooking … i had to quickly take my blood sugar count.. for my “good doctor” who said i was getting obese .. and then attend to my fish .. before it gets burn .. and heat up my own noodles again.. since it’s cold by now.

And then i tried to do my shows for my friends .. and also tried to finish some assignments.. from my advertisers .. for my own blogs.. and those of “ang mohs”

And the brat wanted to show me some stuff.. in which i had told her .. in a min .. i’m trying to finish the sentence. And then instead of waiting.. she told me .. “snap outta it mom!! ” because i was looking at the puter so intently. The JOYS OF MOTHERHOOD..!